Is Summer Visitation Extended if the Child Makes a Brief Visit Home

[T53147]

Four days is am inconvenient number likely requiring an exchange mid-week; OP could be the bigger person and voluntarily allow DD to remain until the next weekend/convenient time without expecting compensatory time. OP,. you really should put yourself in his place and treat him how you would like to be treated. That may mean putting yourself last rather than first as you are now.

If you continue with your demanding that he forgo his 4 days, please post back next time you ask for consideration to whine how he would not agree to it.

[Dogmatique]

I wonder what this thread would look like if the poor child wanted to stay at Dad's for another four days because she loved being there and wasn't ready to go home yet.

[llworking]

I wonder what this thread would look like if the poor child wanted to stay at Dad's for another four days because she loved being there and wasn't ready to go home yet.

If that had been the case dad wouldn't have voluntarily foregone 4 days in the middle of his visit, so all of this would be moot.

[Mr. Knowitall]

If that had been the case dad wouldn't have voluntarily foregone 4 days in the middle of his visit, so all of this would be moot.

When did dad post his version of the story? I must have missed it.

[llworking]

When did dad post his version of the story? I must have missed it.

Dad let the child go home for 4 days in the middle of his visit. Is it really necessary to hear it directly from dad?

[Mr. Knowitall]

Dad let the child go home for 4 days in the middle of his visit. Is it really necessary to hear it directly from dad?

It's certainly necessary to hear his version of events before we buy, wholesale, into a "He's so awful, the child is miserable, poor, poor, pitiful me" act, no?

[llworking]

It's certainly necessary to hear his version of events before we buy, wholesale, into a "He's so awful, the child is miserable, poor, poor, pitiful me" act, no?

Well, we would if that is what was said at all. Mom said nothing negative about dad, she said that the child was homesick. I found it admirable that dad recognized what the child needed in the middle of the visit, and not so admirable that he is unwilling to recognize it at the end. I do not need dad's side of the story to formulate that opinion...and I do have the right to my opinion. Just as you have the right to yours.

[Mr. Knowitall]

Mom said nothing negative about dad

Actually, mom ranted about how awful dad is and how she's sick of giving him what he wants, even though this time it was plainly he who made the concession.

[Dogmatique]

Well, we would if that is what was said at all. Mom said nothing negative about dad, she said that the child was homesick. I found it admirable that dad recognized what the child needed in the middle of the visit, and not so admirable that he is unwilling to recognize it at the end. I do not need dad's side of the story to formulate that opinion...and I do have the right to my opinion. Just as you have the right to yours.

Perhaps you should re-read Mom's posts.

I'll save you the time.

Read this, again.

Yes there is harm bc that's when my vacation with her is supposed to start before school.

Not one word about harm to the child - it's about Mom.

Plus he has given me straight hell when I've tried to do things amicably buy he chooses not to.

Still about Mom, and her feelings about Dad. Not the child.

My daughter is ready to come home and if he can't work with me then I'm to the point of not working with him.

And it's still about Mom's feelings about Dad. She did squeak in a teeny bit about the child ... let's give her some Brownie points for that, I guess?

I've let him have her whenever he wanted for the last 8 years with no issues

How gracious to "let" the child have access to her other parent.

. His personal like changed so the way he started acting changed which is why I went to get this on paper so we wouldn't have any issues. I just want things done the right way bc I know if I asked for something he would not be willing to work with me. Im aware it will be a difficult ten tears I've come to realize that since these papers were done just in June and if hasn't been on my end. My daughter is ready to come home I will only have had two weeks with her this summer if she comes home this weekend before school starts

And we end with ... MOM's needs.

[T53147]

Where was the child in May and June? If school is starting so early in August, it likely ended in May.

I realize the orders were signed during the course of the summer, but for Mom to ignore any time before the official ruling and make a claim that she is not receiving any summer vacation time in order to garner sympathy for her is quite telling.