Running Away from an Adoptive Home to Live With a Biological Relative

[amytyer]

My question involves juvenile law in the State of:
I am 17 I will be 18 on August 24, 2016... Can I leave to go live with my biological Grandfather without the cops bringing me back? My adoptive parents are emotionally abusive and I really think that they're are threatening my sanity. I was adopted late in life at 12 actually and so I know my biological family very well. So is it legal for me to leave less then a month before my 18th birthday in Florida?
Thanks,
Trying to get out of an abusive situation

[Dogmatique]

No, it's not. If you were being abused, child services should have become involved.

Hang on another month, Amy, and then you can leave - legally - and never return.

[adjusterjack]

My adoptive parents are emotionally abusive

How?

Do they make you clean your room, take out the trash, obey rules?

Get mad at you when you don't?

[amytyer]

How?

Do they make you clean your room, take out the trash, obey rules?

Get mad at you when you don't?

Yes obey the rules, clean my room, and my sister helps with the trash... I do all my chores but they still yell scream and curse at me... I have been cleaning the whole house since I was about 14, I usually cook dinner, make lunch, breakfast is fix your own, sweep, vacuum, and take care of my adoptive parents outside animals. They also say bad things about my biological family which makes me upset because my Biological family IS my family and I am asking for help not a lecture. I am just trying to get out of an abusive situation yet you act like it is always the child's fault. It's not I was dragged from my family by DCF and placed in one where the parents have marriage problems and I am yelled, scream, and cursed at. I appreciate your sarcasm but it is really unnecessary. I have a lot of problems and they're making them worse I don't have to discuss my medical problems on here because that is no one else's business. Thanks for the sarcastic imput! God bless!

No, it's not. If you were being abused, child services should have become involved.

Hang on another month, Amy, and then you can leave - legally - and never return.

Thanks! I guess it's not that long... I just have to be patient!

[Dogmatique]

Four short weeks - you can do this!

[cdwjava]

As someone who is related to cousins and nephews who are adopted (and a foster father a few times over, myself), I have discovered that these relatives have discovered that while the grass looked greener when they were "stuck" in their adoptive homes (by people who raised them since infancy) they soon discovered that their biological families were NOT what they had imagined. So, please keep in mind that you may have rose colored glasses for this family you may have never really known.

Also, if these grandparents had been capable, you could have been adopted by them when you were removed by child services once upon a time. For whatever reason, these relatives were either incapable or unwilling to take you in.

Be cautious.

[Mr. Knowitall]

At one month shy of eighteen, there are many states that cannot do anything as a matter of law because their juvenile courts don't have jurisdiction over anybody age 17 or older, and other states and police agencies that won't do anything as a matter of conservation of resources as there's little point in spending a great deal of effort to compel a minor to return home only weeks before the minor will be legally permitted to leave. But the laws of the state matter, as do the full circumstances of the case.

[Mercy&Grace]

"Yes obey the rules, clean my room, and my sister helps with the trash... I do all my chores but they still yell scream and curse at me... I have been cleaning the whole house since I was about 14, I usually cook dinner, make lunch, breakfast is fix your own, sweep, vacuum, and take care of my adoptive parents outside animals. They also say bad things about my biological family which makes me upset because my Biological family IS my family "

This Is Not Abuse. They provide you with everything that you have. The least you can do is help around the house. Many biological children say the same thing.

[qwaspolk69]

As someone who is related to cousins and nephews who are adopted (and a foster father a few times over, myself), I have discovered that these relatives have discovered that while the grass looked greener when they were "stuck" in their adoptive homes (by people who raised them since infancy) they soon discovered that their biological families were NOT what they had imagined. So, please keep in mind that you may have rose colored glasses for this family you may have never really known.

Also, if these grandparents had been capable, you could have been adopted by them when you were removed by child services once upon a time. For whatever reason, these relatives were either incapable or unwilling to take you in.

Be cautious.

She said she was adopted at 12...so I feel like she knows her biological family.

[cdwjava]

She said she was adopted at 12...so I feel like she knows her biological family.

Or, she knows an idealized version of them. And even if adopted at 12 she could well have been in the system for a lot longer than that. Out here such adoptions tend to take a couple of years - less if there is a repeated history by the bio parents. Since the first goal is family reunification, the tend to go for family. I'm wondering where the grandparent was a few years ago.