How To Minimize Child Support Payments

[frogz7595]

I do believe that posting that you care not about a child that you helped concieve would notbe in your favor toward proving yourself as a "fit" parent. Obviously you cared enough for the woman at one time to have a sexual relationship with her. Obviously you also thought it of nonimportance to trust her when she told you she was on the pill.
The child should be your number one priority. If this child is yours you need to think of what is best for the child, not you. Quit being selfish. This isnt no longer about you or your ex. The baby will need love ans support. Can you give that to the fullest extent, WILLINGLY!
The court can make you care. You dont want that. By posting the words you did on here, if your ex was to ever find that then you would have screwed yourself in the long run.
If you are seriously trying to get full custody of the child, GOOD LUCK. You will have ot prove her beyond a shadow of a doubt unfit.
DRUGs,
Alcohol,
abuse,
serious neglect
and prostitution to the point of neglect.
All of these will help you. However, just one or two wont be enough. It is damn near impossible to pull custody from the mother, especailly when you are claiming the child not yours or that you could care less about them both..The states do not like to pull kids away from their moms, especially when its all the kid knows. Is the kid in danger? If your answer is no then forget trying to get the kid. At best case scenerio, try for joint custody. Work your way from there. If you are suspicious that the ex wont get the kid what it needs. Then buy the stuff yourself. Buy the diapers, clothes, bottles wipes and stuff. Personally hand the stuff to her for the kid. Remembering this isnt about what you want presonally, but what you want for the kid.
MOST OF ALL KEEP ALL RECIEPTS AND KEEP GOOD UNBIASED RECORDS!
Keep records of what the child looked like before and after visitation, how the child acted before and after and during, what was said or done. Making sure it is unbiased. Otherwise it will not help you at any time should you try to get custody later. You may be enemies now and friends later. You may not think there is a need to keep records, but there will come a day it will become useful. Make sure to even report things that wouldnt look good on you. EVERYTHING or nothing will happen.
GOOD LUCK and WATCH WHAT YOU SAY, despite how you feel!!!!!

[2poor2pay]

Any time you "sleep" with another individual you place yourself at risk for certain out comes rather protection is used or not. There are STD's, Bad relationships, or Pregnancy. All these things should be considered before getting intimate. She was married and should have been off limits from the start. (how would you feel if it was your wife). At any rate it is not the childs fault if you are the father. They don't get to pick them you know. After hearing you quite honestly I don't think she would want you anyway. For her sake I hope your not. I feel sorry for any children you may ever have if this is your example of how fathers should behave . You should be very ashamed!!!!

[cissycicle]

Any time you "sleep" with another individual you place yourself at risk for certain out comes rather protection is used or not. There are STD's, Bad relationships, or Pregnancy. All these things should be considered before getting intimate. She was married and should have been off limits from the start. (how would you feel if it was your wife). At any rate it is not the childs fault if you are the father. They don't get to pick them you know. After hearing you quite honestly I don't think she would want you anyway. For her sake I hope your not. I feel sorry for any children you may ever have if this is your example of how fathers should behave . You should be very ashamed!!!!

You can't get STD's or pregnant any time you "sleep" with another individual.

[jojo4]

You can't get STD's or pregnant any time you "sleep" with another individual.

I guess it depends on how close the couple "snuggles".

[Baystategirl]

I guess it depends on how close the couple "snuggles".

Is that what they call it now a days??

[jojo4]

Is that what they call it now a days??

Well, apparently some can't handle the word S-X. I'm just being sensitive to tender sensibilities.

[frogz7595]

That is why I put it simply "sexual relations" No use trying to hide the obvious. ARe we geting into Bill CLinton area now of denial on what is "sleeping" with another.
You cant get an STD from sleeping with someone else and being properly protected, at least not to the same risk. Yes the condom could technically break but how often is that actually?
Whne you engage in sexual contact you run the risks of many things you should have at least thought of beforehand. If not then it is negligence and poor planning, on your part. A child is something you should have thought about ahead of time. Maybe next time you sleep with someone you can ask yourself, "If this person gets pregnant with my child, would I like that? And how would this effect everyone involved?"