My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Florida
My son is three and a half years old and his father has never gotten a paternity test done. He is on the birth certificate and I know for a fact he is the father. We have lived with him off and on since my son was born. I left with our son at three months due to excessive drug and alcohol abuse. He went to rehab voluntarily six months later but got kicked out of the program. We got another place together in May when our son was one year and five months. We moved out again this past January. He never continued to seek help until be got put on suboxone after getting arrested for battery and strangulation charges after I called the cops one night last August. I started preparing to leave (more like escape) after that. I (idiotically) didn't cooperate with the state in his prosecution so the case would get dismissed. He would have lost his gaming licence and been fired from his job at the casino. My thought on this was "well how would he help me support our son without a job?" and took pity on him.
He has since never helped in any way with our son. I've kept a contact and visitation log as well as screen shots of violent, harassing text messages. I know that's just considered hearsay but I wanted anything that could help. His contact has been inconsistent and he recently moved to Georgia. I have reason to believe he has been using drugs illegally again.
I do not feel it is in my child's best interest for his father to keep him but I do not feel as if I have strong enough evidence to keep him from getting partial custody. Can I ask to have a hair strand drug test done if i pay for it and we both take it?
He also talks bad to our son about me often in front of me on the rare occasion that he does see our son but i have no proof of that either. Can I wear a hidden camera when I'm in contact with him?
The worst and only thing on my side is that I'm currently unemployed and we're living at my father's house. I'm currently working on finding a stable, good paying job but around here they're hard to come by. We are well supported by my father and do not go without anything needed.
He doesn't put in much effort to keep up a relationship with our son but I know once I start this war he will fight for custody. I would like to move on with our life and build the best possible future for my son. I would like to eventually move out of state and get my degree in environmental science, get married one day, the whole hoopla without a constant fight to live our lives.
I have no qualms with them seeing each other or having a relationship but I do not feel comfortable with them being alone.