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    Default I Want the Father to See the Kids More

    My question involves a child custody case from the State of: tennessee.
    It has been 6 months since or divorce was finalized. He gets the kids every other weekend. He has not taken them for a single night. jst to the movies once a month. Can I interpret the cstody times as an order for him to see them? the kids feel neglected

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    Can I interpret the cstody times as an order for him to see them? the kids feel neglected
    No. His visitation is his right not an obligation. Try talking to your ex and telling him how the kids feel and encourage him to have a good relationship. If he damages the relationship now it will be hard to repair later on.

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    Default Re: I Want the Father to See the Kids More

    Too bad. He is damaging his relationship and I've told him so. He does not communicate very well. He just agrees that he should, then doesn't.

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    Has he given any reasons why he doesn't let them send the night ? How old are the children ?

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    Has he given any reasons why he doesn't let them send the night ? How old are the children ?
    I'm curious about that, too. Parents rarely go from seeing their children regularly to such a drastic chance without there being a reason.

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    no reason given. He's really bad at communication. He doesn't work on weekends. He has a girlfriend who works on weekends. He's just never organized activities and had to run around after them. We have 3 kids ages 6 to 14. I've explained that he doesn't need to make grand plans. the kids don't tear up his house. He doesn't have an active social life that he'd have to give up to have them.

    He has a second bedroom with enough beds, His girlfriend who lives with him keeps the refrigerator stocked with food, so he doesn't have to cook for them.
    We're 45. He's not throwing a tantrum. He lives an hour away. He doesn't like doing much after work. He procrastinates. That's the closest I can get to an explanation: lazy. uninvolved.

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    Not that it matters at this juncture but I'm wondering if his girlfriend actually has more to do with this than he does. We can't force someone to be a good parent ... heck we can't force them to be parents at all.

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    Default Re: I Want the Father to See the Kids More

    not the girlfriend. she's been prompting him to see them. she's actually enthusiastic about the kids. your last sentence breaks my heart.

    Well, thanks for the reply. I'll just have to figure out non legal means to keep my kids feeling loved.

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    Has he always been this way or is it sudden ?

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    He has taken care of the kids before, but then, he lived at home. He hasn't ever wanted to plan trips outside the home because it's too much trouble.
    He gets along with them. I've always been the one to take them to lessons and concerts and games because he gets annoyed at having to organize and motivate the kids. He gets lazy, and procrastinates a lot and if they depended on him for after school activities, they wouldn't be involved in anything.
    He has always been less involved than me.

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