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    Default Re: Can I Claim 3 Kids That Live with Me and I Support if They Are Not My Relatives

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    I do not think that the problem is going to be that she could claim the children as qualifying relatives. The problem is that I am pretty sure that she claimed them as qualifying children.
    Yes, good point. I just stopped at the exemption issue. The other benefits require that the kids be qualifying children, not qualifying relatives, and if she claimed benefits that rely on having a qualifying child she’ll lose those. This kind of thing, making a distinction between qualifying child and qualifying relative, is what drives a lot of non tax pros crazy. The Code is overly complicated on something that should be pretty simple.

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    Default Re: Can You Claim a Dependent Exemption for Unrelated Children Who Reside With You

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    It matters to the bigger question however -- of the children. You need to realize that.
    She is right - that has no bearing on her tax question. If they want to call her mom they can. Their own "mother' has been awol for three years. I am not sure why you have this issue with stepchildren calling a stepparent mom or dad but that is up to them and depends on the situation.

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    Default Re: Can You Claim a Dependent Exemption for Unrelated Children Who Reside With You

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    She is right - that has no bearing on her tax question. If they want to call her mom they can. Their own "mother' has been awol for three years. I am not sure why you have this issue with stepchildren calling a stepparent mom or dad but that is up to them and depends on the situation.
    Legally it can be used against the actual parent that allows their new bed buddy to be called "mom" or "dad". And she is NOT a stepparent. She is a GIRLFRIEND. She is NOTHING to these children. Learn about the law and learn about how it is used against parents before you try to correct me.

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    Default Re: Can You Claim a Dependent Exemption for Unrelated Children Who Reside With You

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    Legally it can be used against the actual parent that allows their new bed buddy to be called "mom" or "dad". And she is NOT a stepparent. She is a GIRLFRIEND. She is NOTHING to these children. Learn about the law and learn about how it is used against parents before you try to correct me.
    OK whatever. It is obvious you have issues with that being used when it is a stepparent and I have seen plenty of cases where families call the stepparents mom or dad. I apologize I misread that she is not their stepmom yet.

    However as having been the girlfriend and then stepmother I disagree with you. I am something still to my daughter's siblings despite their father and I being divorced. His daughter talks to me often and he has no problem with it nor does her mom. Legally I may be nothing but that was not even brought up in this case. At all. Ever. You seem to always find a way to bring it up.

    Edit: Actually some judges rule to allow such things: http://www.pozzuolofamilylaw.com/law...me_bl23258.htm

    I found something else in New Jersey and I'm sure other states and other judges agree that it is up to the CHILD to determine whether or not to call a stepparent mom or dad.

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    Default Re: Can You Claim a Dependent Exemption for Unrelated Children Who Reside With You

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    She is right - that has no bearing on her tax question. If they want to call her mom they can. Their own "mother' has been awol for three years. I am not sure why you have this issue with stepchildren calling a stepparent mom or dad but that is up to them and depends on the situation.
    In the case of a parent who is truly awol from the children's lives it might be ok, if a parent is deceased it is probably ok. However, in most cases it is extremely inappropriate and disrespectful of the actual parent/child relationship and if they happen to be in and out of court, it can cause serious problems for the parent who is allowing it to happen.
    Where it is the most inappropriate is when the person being called mom or dad is not even married to one of the child's actual parents. So no, "if they want to call her mom they can" is honestly not an appropriate answer.

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    Default Re: Can You Claim a Dependent Exemption for Unrelated Children Who Reside With You

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    In the case of a parent who is truly awol from the children's lives it might be ok, if a parent is deceased it is probably ok. However, in most cases it is extremely inappropriate and disrespectful of the actual parent/child relationship and if they happen to be in and out of court, it can cause serious problems for the parent who is allowing it to happen.
    Where it is the most inappropriate is when the person being called mom or dad is not even married to one of the child's actual parents. So no, "if they want to call her mom they can" is honestly not an appropriate answer.
    Thank you. And quite frankly, we don't know why the mother is AWOL. There could be reasons such as dad's actions and what not. Seen those cases.

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    Default Re: Can You Claim a Dependent Exemption for Unrelated Children Who Reside With You

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    In the case of a parent who is truly awol from the children's lives it might be ok, if a parent is deceased it is probably ok. However, in most cases it is extremely inappropriate and disrespectful of the actual parent/child relationship and if they happen to be in and out of court, it can cause serious problems for the parent who is allowing it to happen.
    Where it is the most inappropriate is when the person being called mom or dad is not even married to one of the child's actual parents. So no, "if they want to call her mom they can" is honestly not an appropriate answer.
    It is up to the child in everything I have read on this. But that is neither here nor there on THIS specific topic.

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    It is up to the child in everything I have read on this. But that is neither here nor there on THIS specific topic.
    Well, then you shouldn't have raised the issue the way that you did. You made it necessary for people to correct you in order to make sure that other people reading the thread are not mislead by what you said...and no, its only up to the child in circumstances where its actually appropriate...such as the other parent being deceased. Heck, even 40 years ago it wasn't acceptable. My uncle's ex wife wanted their daughter to call him daddy A and her new husband daddy B and the judge put a stop to that right quick.

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    Default Re: Can You Claim a Dependent Exemption for Unrelated Children Who Reside With You

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    Well, then you shouldn't have raised the issue the way that you did. You made it necessary for people to correct you in order to make sure that other people reading the thread are not mislead by what you said...and no, its only up to the child in circumstances where its actually appropriate...such as the other parent being deceased. Heck, even 40 years ago it wasn't acceptable. My uncle's ex wife wanted their daughter to call him daddy A and her new husband daddy B and the judge put a stop to that right quick.
    I did not bring up the issue. Pretty sure Ohiogal brought up the "don't call your stepparent or parent's significant other mom or dad ever." Then said there are laws about it which there are not.

    If you can show me sources where there is law or where legally it is not up to the child I am more than happy to see it. A lot of things that were not acceptable 40 years ago are acceptable today - like homosexuals getting married and just being allowed to be homosexual, transgenders being able to be transgender, no more segregation and so on. Things change over time...especially in family court.

    I already stated before this that there was no need for calling someone else mom or dad to be brought up on a tax issue.

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