My question involves child abuse or neglect in the State of: Maryland
So, here is my issue.
I have been in a committed relationship with my GF for 3 years. We have been co-inhabiting for 2 1/2 of those years. She has a son (now 16) and he hates me. He is a totally defiant and rebellious teen. He is flunking every class in school, constantly gets sent to the office and is suspended regularly. We have found him smoking weed in his room and he contributes nothing but drama and strife to our home. This behavior is not new since my arrival in the home. His mom says he’s been like this for many years.
We have tried to offer rewards for good behavior with no success. Finally after his last defiant act against his mother (my GF) we decided he was going to loose all privileges. We removed his bedroom door and left him with a room containing only his bed, a lamp, his cloths and school books.
The day after we purged his room (where we found an alarming amount of drug evidence) there was a huge (verbal) altercation with his mom and me, he stormed out of the house and didn't come back for a day. We filed a report with the police that he had run away and called social services for help. We found him the next day and he is now staying with his aunt whom we trust (he is on spring break and his mom and I both work so we didn’t feel comfortable with him being home alone).
We now have a meeting planned in a couple of days with a social service case worker. I'm concerned about the outcome.
I have never touched this teen in any way that would be construed as inappropriate. I have never assaulted him physically or sexually. We have yelled at each other, for sure, but I have always tried to be a mentor to this young man. I am a former summer camp administrator and before that I was a counselor. I have been an elementary educator and have a ton of experience with teens and children of all ages. Frankly I feel like a failure because this is the first time that I have been unsuccessful in making a connection with a youth that was beneficial for us both.
I have enough experience with CPS and social services to know that their only real concern is for the safety and well being of the child. I don't fault them for this, but it does give me some concerns about this up coming meeting.
Is this teen's hatred of me enough for them to say that my presence in his home is detrimental to him and the cause of his defiance? And therefore demand that I move out?

