Now to this point (and still today) the only thing she's verbalized or fought me on is that she doesn't want to move and she's not ready even though she's had 5 days a week without the kids since Christmas without working (her first day actually was today 2/22/16).
While super pissed, I keep my cool and decide not to say anything as I haven't seen any official documentation yet. Of course later the same day I get the documents in the mail, go figure. There's nothing specific in the documents other than a motion to relocate along with the declaration, which included a bunch of generic reasons from home values to witnesses to teachers and schools. She also stated that she was pressured into filing in Wahkiakum County (emailed docs, signed at a neutral location 2 weeks later, pressured my you know what...) as well as the statement that there is a pierce county attorney waiting to take the case once transferred.
Now that I have the documentation I text her, "I got an interesting piece of mail... What's going on?" She says, "we only talk about the kids, other than that you can talk to my attorney." I say, "good enough, what's his / her name / number."
Here's the frustrating part, she refuses to tell me who this person is, the documents I received were prepared by her and "witnessed" by a friend of hers, not an attorney, Wahkiakum County has no record of an attorney and Pierce county has no records as our case is still held at Wahkiakum until either I sign the OK to move the case, or we have a hearing down there. I've asked a few times, including when she dropped the kids off last night for contact information and she just sneers and laughs, I told her I'm not signing anything until I have more information and she just snickered and said, "that's your prerogative."
I've reached out to a few recommended attorneys for a consultation but I have no information regarding what she's after. My gut is that she's bluffing and that she knows that this will drag our case out allowing her to stay in the house longer.
Meanwhile my end of the bargain is costing me over $5k a month out of pocket just for her end of things (not including my own bills or expenses for the kids) and I've run up credit cards just to live somewhat regularly with the assumption I'd pay them off when the home sells.
Above and beyond our "agreement" I pay her car insurance (partially because my name is on the car), her cell phone bill (I call the kids when they're over there) and her cable and internet just to be nice and because 2 days a week (assuming they're actually at her house) my kids use them.
I feel my only ammunition left to get her to tell me what the hell is going on is to cut those "optional" expenses off (about $400 monthly) and make her pay them but I've also been advised this would look worse in court than going above and beyond to make things as good as possible for everyone involved.
Long rant, sorry. Last thing for full disclosure, I have a new girlfriend that lives with me, (psych major, amazing, educated girl) and is involved in all of the best ways in the kids lives and they love her to death, we actually had our first swim lessons for the kids today! Also aside from 2 days we offered my ex to have the kids and she accepted (she's declined others) every day the kids have been with us, they've been with us, they're everything to us and we put them first. Between my work, her school, her work and driving over 2 hours every weekday to transport them to school (I moved about 20 minutes away from the bus stop, 40 from school and they go to different schools, the 4 year old only 2 days a week), neither of us has had a regular day off in over well over 3 months but Sunday night through thursday night is family, we make the most of the few hours a week we can dedicate to each other and have a great relationship regardless.
Thanks for reading if you made it this far, I have no idea what to do from here, any advice is truly appreciated!