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    Default Domestic Battery and Threats With a Gun

    My question involves criminal law for the state of: Greenfield, IN
    Hi my name is Marissa. On Friday of last week my boyfriend and I had gotten into an arguement over some other things that has been going on in our lives. He had palmed me in my face and caused my glasses to bruise my upper eye and the ridge of my nose. He then pulled out his gun not attempting to shoot me but to shoot himself due to everything that we as a family are going through. I am also 33 weeks pregnant. He told me to call the cops and make a report. So I did what he told me to do also because I was scared and had no idea what to do in that situation. I do not want my kids father to go to jail. I want to drop all the charges. I want everything to go away. I would like to know what I could do to help this situation better. He has had no priors in the state of Indiana. Hes a really good person. He loves me, What he did was wrong yes. But were all human beings and we make mistakes even if we regret them later. I would just like some advice on what i could do to help him through this and to make this all go away.

    Thanks Marissa

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    There's nothing you, yourself, can do to 'make this go away'. That's completely up to the prosecutor.

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    My question involves criminal law for the state of: Greenfield, IN
    Hi my name is Marissa. On Friday of last week my boyfriend and I had gotten into an arguement over some other things that has been going on in our lives. He had palmed me in my face and caused my glasses to bruise my upper eye and the ridge of my nose. He then pulled out his gun not attempting to shoot me but to shoot himself due to everything that we as a family are going through. I am also 33 weeks pregnant. He told me to call the cops and make a report. So I did what he told me to do also because I was scared and had no idea what to do in that situation. I do not want my kids father to go to jail. I want to drop all the charges. I want everything to go away. I would like to know what I could do to help this situation better. He has had no priors in the state of Indiana. Hes a really good person. He loves me, What he did was wrong yes. But were all human beings and we make mistakes even if we regret them later. I would just like some advice on what i could do to help him through this and to make this all go away.

    Thanks Marissa
    He has no priors in the state of Indiana ... what about the other 49 states?

    Marissa, I'm going to tell you something you likely don't want to hear. If you continue this relationship, you are leaving your door wide open to child services getting involved once your baby is born. No, he doesn't love you and no, he isn't a good person. Loving someone does not entail physically abusing them and a good person would never raise their hand to their partner unless it was in self-defense. Their pregnant partner. Who is already at a physical disadvantage.

    A mistake is putting on odd colored socks in the morning. Assaulting someone is not a "mistake", it's a very deliberate act.

    Get some help.

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    Any time a woman is discussing her boyfriend and uses the term "priors" that is a big old giveaway that this man is NOT a good man and she needs to RUN LIKE HELL! Nobody "palms" you in the face and causes your eyeglasses to bruise the inside of your eye socket. HE HIT YOU. And there was a gun out waving, not maybe to shoot you, you're so sure of that, but to shoot himself, because of what YOU "as a family" are going through. Okay, if you survive the shooting, that's what he'll tell you. He aimed for himself and missed, maybe?

    Maybe he controlled how hard he hit you, which he is to be commended for, as you made him SOOO mad and he was SOOOO upset and all. and maybe he is a good good person with no priors (in this state anyway) but you have no choice in this matter thank God! and if you do not cooperate with the prosecution, they may put you in custody, which might actually save your life, or the life of your unborn baby, as it would get you away from this very good person you have conceived a child with. Abused partners can be so crazy, but when you have a child, then your responsibilities are different and you just can't be making the choice to expose yourself to this, you are also exposing your unborn child to this, even in the womb, and heaven knows it won't get better when the baby is out in the world. Please use this opportunity to at least talk with somebody who may help you see reality.

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    Hi, I'm not a lawyer but I doubt most of the posters here are too. I'm also not going to give you moral advice, or pretend like I care about your safety and give you the ol' "leave him cause if it happened once it'll happen again" speech that does nothing to answer your question like some of the other post.

    I had a case much, much milder that didn't involve hitting or an arrest and much less a gun so I can't imagine go how many charges will be filed on you boyfriend but I'm going through something right now as well. I consulted various lawyers as well and the simple truth is that there is nothing that you can do at this point.

    Your state may have a "no drop" policy so charges will go on with or without you. The only thing that you CAN do is simply NOT cooperate with the prosecution. They will threaten to put you in jail, lie to you, or do anything else to get you to testify but remember, they are not your friends. They are not representing you. They do not have your best interest in mind. Stone wall them. They can't touch you unless you get subpoenaed and even then they are going to thread lightly about putting you in jail because you are a victim. Until then you can throw any correspondence you receive from them in the trash and ignore all their calls.

    If there are no other witnesses then your testimony will be the primary evidence but be careful because not having a complaining witness may delay their case but it won't stop it. The prosecution will use other evidence like photos of your bruises, the gun they recovered, and other things.

    Sorry but the case will not go away. Make sure your boyfriend lawyers up and that you don't talk about this to anyone unless you get subpoenaed. The rest will depend on how much of a risk taker you boyfriend is: either take a plea (if offered) or take it to trial which will drag on for maybe more than a year.

    But damn....if he threaten to kill you then this is some serious shit.

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    Hi, I'm not a lawyer but I doubt most of the posters here are too. I'm also not going to give you moral advice, or pretend like I care about your safety and give you the ol' "leave him cause if it happened once it'll happen again" speech that does nothing to answer your question like some of the other post.

    I had a case much, much milder that didn't involve hitting or an arrest and much less a gun so I can't imagine go how many charges will be filed on you boyfriend but I'm going through something right now as well. I consulted various lawyers as well and the simple truth is that there is nothing that you can do at this point.

    Your state may have a "no drop" policy so charges will go on with or without you. The only thing that you CAN do is simply NOT cooperate with the prosecution. They will threaten to put you in jail, lie to you, or do anything else to get you to testify but remember, they are not your friends. They are not representing you. They do not have your best interest in mind. Stone wall them. They can't touch you unless you get subpoenaed and even then they are going to thread lightly about putting you in jail because you are a victim. Until then you can throw any correspondence you receive from them in the trash and ignore all their calls.

    If there are no other witnesses then your testimony will be the primary evidence but be careful because not having a complaining witness may delay their case but it won't stop it. The prosecution will use other evidence like photos of your bruises, the gun they recovered, and other things.

    Sorry but the case will not go away. Make sure your boyfriend lawyers up and that you don't talk about this to anyone unless you get subpoenaed. The rest will depend on how much of a risk taker you boyfriend is: either take a plea (if offered) or take it to trial which will drag on for maybe more than a year.

    But damn....if he threaten to kill you then this is some serious shit.
    Well, at least it's clear how you came up with your screen-name.

    And here's the cute part.

    The Internet isn't anonymous, OP. Bear that in mind.

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