My question involves marriage law for the State of: California
I am planning on getting married, I am worried that me getting married then removing my father off my birth cert, trying to changing my legal birth cert last name, and changing or adding another ssn because of the problems with my fahter, and whatever else must happen to this. Or should I do this before getting married? Or can I just legally take my husband's last name and have is on my birth cert?
please ask me questions if needed to understand. I am little confused myself.
short of it all, my SSN card was lost in a state with an Ex who was murder number one, Number two my father is not giving me his copy of my ssn and birth cert even though I asked for it, number three my father is also not my real father by DNA and I have that paper proving it, number four yes I have money own to people but I am not wanting to change my information for that reason, but to protect myself from my ex's family and from this man who calls himself a "dad". Yes I fear him, and yes I got ptsd from him being in my life.
Can I get married before doing all this? or should I do it before? How would I go about doing it? or whatever do in which ever order is easy?

