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    Default My Boss is Threatening to Commit Suicide, and His Girlfriend Harasses Me

    My question involves labor and employment law for the state of California- Alameda County:

    So I'm 26 young lady, my boss is a man in his mid/late 40s. He's VERY domineering and controlling in the work place, it's a very uncomfortable place to work. But there has been boundaries stepped on that is something i need help with.

    1. My boss keeps threatening to kill himmself. He's told multiple people in the office this- yet no one does anything about it. It's VERY stressful, i try to constantly be there fore him even though he mostly just puts me down.

    2. He tells me he's in deep with this old man, and now this old man wants to get me involved. I told him no and was incredibly sketched out by it- also because I was sure I was being stalked by a car my boss described to me--- a few days ago my boss told me this is actually his girlfriend.

    What the hell can i do? I do not have a recorded history of this stalking.

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    Default Re: Boss's Girlfriend is Stalking Me - Boss is Threatening Suicide

    Polish up the resume and seek employment elsewhere. Quickly.

    If you continue to work for crazy people, what happens to you is nobody's fault but your own.

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    Nothing illegal going on here except possibly the stalking. If the stalking really bothers you, then keep records of any future stalking activity and then speak to the police about it.

    (Also, just curious, what do you mean by "he's in deep with this old man" and now the old man wants to get you involved? Really, this could mean practically anything, from him being in debt to an old man and now the old man wants you to pay the debt, to him being in love with the old man and now your boss wants you to love him too...what?)

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    Default Re: Boss's Girlfriend is Stalking Me - Boss is Threatening Suicide

    If this is a legitimate job, as in you have taxes taken out and receive a regular paycheck, hang on until you find another job. if this is an off the books operation in any way, leave right now. There are legitimate jobs out there, you need to find one, and you will not be subjecting yourself to this creepy stuff, which, though creepy, is NOT illegal, YET. Of course if he sets it up for the old man to have you as part of the payment for being "deep into" it with him, whatever that means, that's illegal. Call law enforcement and get away promptly. Also, what if he does commit suicide? You'll be out of work in no time. Find something else!

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    Default Re: My Boss is Threatening to Commit Suicide, and His Girlfriend Harasses Me

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    My question involves labor and employment law for the state of California- Alameda County:

    So I'm 26 young lady, my boss is a man in his mid/late 40s. He's VERY domineering and controlling in the work place, it's a very uncomfortable place to work. But there has been boundaries stepped on that is something i need help with.

    1. My boss keeps threatening to kill himmself. He's told multiple people in the office this- yet no one does anything about it. It's VERY stressful, i try to constantly be there fore him even though he mostly just puts me down.

    2. He tells me he's in deep with this old man, and now this old man wants to get me involved. I told him no and was incredibly sketched out by it- also because I was sure I was being stalked by a car my boss described to me--- a few days ago my boss told me this is actually his girlfriend.

    What the hell can i do? I do not have a recorded history of this stalking.
    You are not a therapist, are you? I'd suggest not 'be there fore [sic] him', because that is highly inappropriate workplace behavior.

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    Nothing illegal going on here except possibly the stalking. If the stalking really bothers you, then keep records of any future stalking activity and then speak to the police about it.

    (Also, just curious, what do you mean by "he's in deep with this old man" and now the old man wants to get you involved? Really, this could mean practically anything, from him being in debt to an old man and now the old man wants you to pay the debt, to him being in love with the old man and now your boss wants you to love him too...what?)

    I know this is VERY confusing. i'm very confused. He told me this man 'saved his life' and now he has to go do his dirty work and now the old man wants me to do his dirty work which apparently entails being sent abroad (something I really want to do)-- only to be revealed 3-4 months later that this 'old man' is actually his girlfriend. I'm VERY confused too, and very creeped out.

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    Default Re: Boss's Girlfriend is Stalking Me - Boss is Threatening Suicide

    Well, if I were the girlfriend and you "we're there" for my boyfriend I'm thinking whatever is happening with you and the girlfriend is pretty lightweight compared to what would happen with me and you.

    Ignore the death threats. Either it is an attempt to manipulate you or he means it. If to manipulate you, the more you ignore him the better for you. If he is serious let his girlfriend help him get help. Your obligation as an employee is not to hold your bosses hand.

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    I can't improve on AJ's advice.

    j/k's is pretty good too.

    Heck, ALL the advice you've received here is good. You need out of there. Yesterday, if possible.

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