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    Angry What Can You Do if Your Boyfriend Skips Out on Your Lease

    My question involves landlord-tenant law in the State of: NORTH CAROLINA

    my boyfriend and I have lived together for a couple of years now. We moved into a new house in November despite things being rocky and family/friends advising me against it. He has a history of violence but is incredibly intelligent and manipulative and has had multiple people arrested.

    Both of our names are on the lease and we split the rent 50/50. It's a $1,750 a month house.

    We fight almost everyday and twice now he was rented a U-Haul, packed up 100% of his belongings and driven the truck around town until he calmed down and came back. However he is becoming increasingly verbally and mentally abusive. He films me almost all day with his phone. He picks at me, won't leave me alone in peace, demands I do chores and follows me around the house filming me doing so. He has tons of videos uploaded to the cloud. he constantly goes through my phone, computer, laptop. He has harassed my male friends via social media to the point they do not speak to me anymore. Most of my girlfriends do not talk to me anymore either b/c they know how crazy he is.

    The other day he found my anti-depressants while I was watching a movie in my room. I can no longer lock doors because he has a tool he uses to gain access to any room I lock myself in. He shook the pill bottle in my face and taunted me, saying how crazy I was and telling me how much weight I've gained and how trashy my family is........all while filming me. He does this "head-butt nudging" where he uses the top of his head to try to pin me to the couch. I finally slapped him in the face to get him off of me. As soon as I did, he said "GOTCHA ON FILM" and ran out.

    He has, on several occasions, pinned me to the ground and held my mouth and nose to where I could breathe. He slammed on breaks so hard once so that my head hit the dash. He has also slammed my head into a window and a hook on the wall . Unfortunately I do not have anything on film and he claims that I "have no proof" and he will tell the courts that I am "crazy and making stuff up"

    I want to leave the relationship but he is threatening that he will press assault charges on me because he has the face-slap on film. He also says he will sue me if I leave.

    But today before I left for work he was packing up his things....again.....claiming he's moving out and has signed another lease.

    I cannot afford the house by myself so living alone is not an option.

    I have three questions:

    1. is there ANYTHING I can do to possibly break the lease?

    2. If he moves out, can I sue him for back rent?

    3. Are there any laws about unwillingly being recorded at all times in my own home? (SOmetimes he sets up cameras around the house )

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    Default Re: Boyfriend May Be Skipping Out on Lease

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    1. is there ANYTHING I can do to possibly break the lease?
    Yes. See NC statute 42-45.1. It's not going to be easy, as you can see.

    http://www.ncga.state.nc.us/enactedl...s_42-45.1.html

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    2. If he moves out, can I sue him for back rent?
    Sure. Doesn't mean you'll ever collect. And why would you want to keep this scumbag in your life for the month or years that a lawsuit will take?

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    3. Are there any laws about unwillingly being recorded at all times in my own home? (SOmetimes he sets up cameras around the house )
    Not under the circumstances you describe.

    Now for the advice: Get in touch with a local agency that helps victims of domestic abuse. Yes, you ARE, and it's about time you admitted that this is beyond your control and get yourself some help. File a restraining order and get out of that house as soon as you can. Otherwise you may end up dead or crippled. Oh well, you didn't take the good advice of family and friends, you probably won't take this advice either.

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    Default Re: Boyfriend May Be Skipping Out on Lease

    Adjusterjack has nailed it. GET. OUT. While you still can. You have family and friends that are aware of the situation, and are likely willing to help. If not, try here;

    http://www.futureswithoutviolence.or...ents/get-help/

    Staying will get you nothing but dead, or seriously injured. It will cost you to get out, but sometimes consequences are just part of the decisions ones makes.

    Pack what you can, and leave. Make sure you involve Law Enforcement, before he does. Don't threaten, don't confront. Get Out.

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    Default Re: Boyfriend May Be Skipping Out on Lease

    some people are masochists and choose to be abused. Some people aren't. It's time you decided which you are. If you choose to stay, don't ask for sympathy from others. It's a choice you made to stay full well knowing the abuse you will face.

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