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lamw
I'm not entirely sure why you feel the need to be a twit in the majority of your replies. Maybe it makes you feel big, you're not. Maybe you think it makes you more important, it doesn't. I absolutely did not "set him up" and I'm sure he would love to see me if I actually wanted to see him.
The reality is that I fell in love with someone with anger and control issues, he became violent toward me and went to jail. Upon his release, I convinced myself that if I was more submissive, more patient, less demanding, more of everything that he wanted, things would get better - I know, stupid me.
When no amount of pandering to his needs made anything better, and after he chased me around my apartment punching me over and over and throwing spicy food in my face at 4AM on my birthday, I called the police again. I now realize we shouldn't be together, at least not now and not without some intense counseling on both our parts.
Nonetheless, I desperately want my daughter to have a relationship with her father, something that I never had, and I know how much he loves her. He's a bad boyfriend, but a good father, and I've never wanted our relationship to interfere with theirs.
Therefore, despite the fact that I'm not an idiot and realize that my going to see him would be considered "contact", I was curious if there was a way to negotiate things to bring my daughter to see him - if there was any agreement that could be reached between lawyers or the jail or anything wherein we agree not to speak. If you can't be helpful, excuse yourself.