My Ex-Spouse Locked Our Kids in the Trunk of His Car

[Dogmatique]

Allow me the luxury of clarifying a few things.

All communication, unless it is from the school district, goes through OFW. Court ordered. The parent-teacher conferences were done per conference call as I was away on a business trip, and my husband and my ex's wife often attend parent teacher conferences. No one has a problem with it. We occasionally text quick questions -- "have tried calling the kids, please have them call me" -- type of thing.

As for a no-third party interference order -- that would cut both ways. I have ample evidence to support the simple fact that my ex behaves better when my husband deals with him. I have tried these last five years to have a cordial co-parenting relationship with my ex. It worked well until I remarried. Now it works better for everyone this way. I would much rather deal with my ex directly, but it is not possible. It's not a question of "manning up" because he does not intimidate me.

In any event, I wanted to know how to deal with the kids being locking in a trunk of a 16 year old car, not to defend how we have arranged communication.

But I thank you all for your advice and your crystal-ball analysis regarding how I should live my life.

He doesn't intimidate you but you're at risk of raised blood pressure and palpitations?

"Be helpful or be silent"? Wow.

I guess I'm done then, too.

[jk]

And apparently you still don't know what the kids were doing in the trunk. Maybe it was dad simply playing around. Maybe he had nefarious reasons. Until you know more about this situation you are over reacting.

And what hapened to you couldn't talk to dad as it ended up with yelling? Now you say everything goes through OFW. Does he use capital letters or something? You can't handle capital letters?

[Mercy&Grace]

Step-dad being a go between being ok with others is not the same as the Judge saying it's ok. The children are your and their dad's responsibility, not the ex's. No interference from either ex being a court order is something I hope you're prepared for.