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    Default My Ex-Spouse Locked Our Kids in the Trunk of His Car

    My question involves child abuse or neglect in the State of: Illinois

    I swear I cannot make this up. This is an excerpt from my husband's email to my ex-husband asking him why the children were in the trunk of his 1999 Honda Civic. He didn't start the car, or travel anywhere, but damn, this is a weird development. Even for my ex, who is perhaps the most disconnected, selfish parent I have ever met.

    " We had been further talking about XXX's "How cars work" project that I did with XXX, and how the teacher thought it was really good (per our parent-teacher conference). XXX interjected with how XXX knows how trunks work since you locked (them) in yours. This of course raised serious concern as I am sure you can understand due to the danger should something go wrong or stop functioning, as well as indicating to them that getting closed in a trunk is a good idea".

    My husband, the kid's stepdad, is the one who runs interference between my ex and me. My ex stresses me out to the point of anxiety attacks and everyone involved -- psychologists, counselors, attorneys, and my ex -- all seem to think that my husband dealing with my ex is better for everyone.

    I would like some advice about how to handle this. I should add that the children's father is $4600 behind in child support and I finally have an order to make him pay. He is a full-time employed person who makes well into the six figures and can certainly afford to support his children, but feels that the money goes to me instead of the kids.

    Thank you for your help.

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    Default Re: Kids in Trunk

    Remind me how old kiddo is?

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    Default Re: Kids in Trunk

    playing in trunk of a parked car may not be the brightest idea but unless the kids were abandonned in a locked car Im not sure any law was broken or even stretched. EX is looking to make a fuss?

    If Dad is $4600 behind on CS Id be more focused on warming his buns on that topic and perhaps seeking sanctions like loss of license (s) and your legal fees?

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    Default Re: Kids in Trunk

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    Remind me how old kiddo is?
    11, turning 12 later this month. One child has ADHD and anxiety issues

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    well, the money is supposed to go to you so tell him he is right and to get over it
    Excellent advice. So tired of playing this true-up game -- we've been working on this since June. My attorney sucks and I fired her today because of her incompetence. I can wait without paying someone to tell me she is playing phone tag with OC.

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    I can't help but think that your husband went way overboard on this one.

    If that was actually the content of what your husband sent to Dad, I'd likely be furious if I were Dad.

    I think y'all are inviting trouble into your house. YMMV.

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    I can't help but think that your husband went way overboard on this one.

    If that was actually the content of what your husband sent to Dad, I'd likely be furious if I were Dad.

    I think y'all are inviting trouble into your house. YMMV.
    I'm outraged that my ex would think that putting almost 12 year old children into the trunk of a car under any circumstances. It is the magna cum laude of stupid. I don't want to send my children back to that environment, if stupid gets the right to put our children in harm's way.

    What do I do about this, please?

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    I'm outraged that my ex would think that putting almost 12 year old children into the trunk of a car under any circumstances. It is the magna cum laude of stupid. I don't want to send my children back to that environment, if stupid gets the right to put our children in harm's way.

    What do I do about this, please?
    Do whatever you want. But if everything you've said here before is true, I think you know fine well that Dad is going to turn this around and make you and your husband look like idiots.

    If he's as bad as you've made out, he'll lie his ass off and convince the judge that he was actually giving them a lesson in safety showing them how easily they can get into a dangerous situation if they act like fools.

    And if he's not quite as bad? Well, that's another story.

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    Default Re: Kids in Trunk

    Why were they in the trunk? There may be absolutely nothing wrong with what happened. Of course it could be quite improper but you don't seem to know why they were in the trunk.

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    Child support money is intended to be the other parents contribution to the costs of raising a child. Included in those costs are room, board, travel expenses, and clothing and anything else it takes to raise a child. It isn't to provide the children with gifts and such.

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    but feels that the money goes to me instead of the kids
    well, the money is supposed to go to you so tell him he is right and to get over it

    without more explanation of the situation with the kids in the trunk there is no way to say there is a problem with it.

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