My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Illinois
I am engaged to a wonderful man and he has a beautiful little girl. Him and I have had our ups and downs. One weekend we had her in our care we had gotten into a pretty heated argument and I had ended up hitting him. The daughter did not see anything but heard us arguing. The cops were called and no one was arrested or charged with anything. It resulted in my fiancé and his daughter staying at a friends house for the remaining weekend. This happened in early June and has been resolved and nothing like that has happened since. His ex wife on the other hand will not let my fiancé have his daughter for his court appointed weekends since the end of June. He is only allowed a few hours here and there as long as it's on her terms.
We have a lawyer and had a court date in August but she avoided the cops to get served papers and got them the day before in which you have to have 48 hrs notice. We had another court date and it was cancelled again cause the ex wife's lawyer stated she had no case and dropped her. She had to obtain a new attorney and he couldn't make the day the court was scheduled. She says she doesn't want their child around me cause I threatened their daughter's life or the life of her father, which was not the case. She's basing her reasoning off of things she thinks went on that night.
We were really hoping to be able to have her on the weekends again and would like some advice as to what to do. Also one more thing the ex wife's step dad is a convicted sex offender in which he raped and molested the ex wife since the age of about 11 to 17 and she takes their daughter around him, but I'm a horrible person. What should we do on that subject also? Thank ya'll for your time on reading this. I have not involved myself in this situation at all unless my fiancé asked my opinion. I didn't want to make things worse.
I forgot to mention I've seen their daughter a couple times since and have sat her down and talked to her and apologized. She has forgiven me and tells me she loves me and my children, she misses us, and still gives me the biggest hugs when I've been around. Also when she's on the phone with her dad she asks about me and how I'm doing and asks about my children. This in turn is hurting her and the mother doesn't realize this.

