Blackmailed After a Sexual Encounter

[Jamesd77]

Im not sure if this is the right forum for this but here it goes. I was on a social media app when I was contacted from this guy who said his friend wanted to meet me. His "friend" was a very attractive young lady so of course it caught my interest. I agreed to meet but when I got there it was only the guy. He said that if I did not let him perform oral sex on me he would post some nude pics I had sent through kik messenger to what I thought was the girl in the photos he sent me. Not only Terrified of my friends and family seeing these photos, I knew the man owned a handgun from photos he had on his page and was afraid for my life, so I did the stupidest thing of my life and agreed to let him perform oral sex on me. I felt so ashamed. Now a year or so later he sends me a video of him performing oral sex on me and says that if I do not have sex with him he will send the video and texts to my friends and family and post them on a shaming website like thedirty.com. He said that if I have sex with him he will delete everything and I'll never hear from him again witch I don't believe for a second. Isn't this blackmail and defamation? Is there anything legally I can do? I would prefer to scare him off with some legal facts so that I don't have to actually take this to court and have the embarrassment of my friends and family finding out. Please help ASAP

[llworking]

Im not sure if this is the right forum for this but here it goes. I was on a social media app when I was contacted from this guy who said his friend wanted to meet me. His "friend" was a very attractive young lady so of course it caught my interest. I agreed to meet but when I got there it was only the guy. He said that if I did not let him perform oral sex on me he would post some nude pics I had sent through kik messenger to what I thought was the girl in the photos he sent me. Not only Terrified of my friends and family seeing these photos, I knew the man owned a handgun from photos he had on his page and was afraid for my life, so I did the stupidest thing of my life and agreed to let him perform oral sex on me. I felt so ashamed. Now a year or so later he sends me a video of him performing oral sex on me and says that if I do not have sex with him he will send the video and texts to my friends and family and post them on a shaming website like thedirty.com. He said that if I have sex with him he will delete everything and I'll never hear from him again witch I don't believe for a second. Isn't this blackmail and defamation? Is there anything legally I can do? I would prefer to scare him off with some legal facts so that I don't have to actually take this to court and have the embarrassment of my friends and family finding out. Please help ASAP

You need to go straight to the police. It may be embarrassing, but the guy needs to go to jail for blackmail.

[Ohiogal]

How old was the guy's friend supposedly? And yes, you have to report this police.

[jk]

Is there anything legally I can do? I would prefer to scare him off with some legal facts so that I don't have to actually take this to court and have the embarrassment of my friends and family finding out. Please help ASAP

so you want to pretend to be willing to turn the guy in hoping he will stop wanting to have sex with you.

do you really believe it will work? I bet it won't. In fact, he might send a few pics to family or friends just to show how serious he is. Nothing too revealing but just something to show you he is serious. What would you do then? Remember, if you report it, everybody finds out everything.

[llworking]

so you want to pretend to be willing to turn the guy in hoping he will stop wanting to have sex with you.

do you really believe it will work? I bet it won't. In fact, he might send a few pics to family or friends just to show how serious he is. Nothing too revealing but just something to show you he is serious. What would you do then? Remember, if you report it, everybody finds out everything.

Are you suggesting that he give in to this blackmailer?

[jk]

Are you suggesting that he give in to this blackmailer?

I am suggesting he accept reality.


He can either submit to the demand and continue to have sex with the man hoping the guy will live up to his word (but surely having to realize he is lying)

he can attempt to scare the guy off but realize the guy could actually carry out the threat

he can actually report it to the police knowing the situation will become known to friends and family


sometimes we make choices, not based on a perfect world but on the reality of the results of our actions and make the decision we hope will be the least problematic.

In any situation he may be exposed

in the proper "legal" response he is guaranteed to be exposed, figuratively, if not literally.

it is up to the OP to weigh the risks and determine the best choice for him, even if it means not reporting the blackmail.