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annaj
my question involves a marriage in the state of: New York
Hi...My boyfriend just got divorced this week. He was separated for a year and his wife initiated the separation. Their marital home was sold and they went their own separate ways a year ago. There are two small children involved that reside with the wife. They were married 7 years.
My boyfriend elected not to hire an attorney and did all paperwork himself. It was a pain but his divorce was granted. The big problem is at least for me. He divided all his marital assets himself and never went through the court. For some reason he allows his wife or now ex wife to take advantage of him. He gave her all the money but $8,00o from the sale of the marital home plus he is only legally required to give his ex wife about $1100 a month for both small children. The wife bought a new home with money he gave her from the sale of the home. She told him she needed a nice place for the kids. He falls for all her nonsense. The house was for her not the kids.
He pays her about $500 more a month so he pays 1600 a month. The reason he says is because his ex wife can only work part time because she wants to be home with the kids. Basically she pays her mortgage with the money he gives her and not one penny goes toward support. She is always asking him for additional monies for clothes and birthday parties etc. I get furious and fight with him over this.
He did cut the money back a bit but only by 300. I feel the ex wife is getting too much of his money and uses it for herself. First, do you feel he is a fool giving her extra money? Second, If the wife is not using the "Child support money" toward the kids but spending it to pay her mortgage can she get in trouble thru the courts?
Normally women have to fight to get money from their ex spouse, He makes her life super easy and she has to fight for nothing. Did anyone ever hear of such a thing? He makes good money but that is beside the point. Any help appreciated.