What to Do About a Controlling Mother

[piscescream]

My question involves criminal law for the state of: FL

My boyfriend was adopted, and her mom clearly has some psychological issues, she treated him like treating a pet. If she's happy, she would buy things for him, take him out to eat, etc; but if things are not going her way, she gets all crazy and dangerous. She put him in mental hospital for two month when he was 18 just because she thought he was depressed while he was perfectly fine. Now he is 23 and she still wants to control everything. Last week, one night I was sleeping over in his room and I told her I needed to get up early to work the next morning, but them got into a fight again that night because he doesn't want to take the class she wanted him to take. Then she got all upset and turned TV on at midnight and turned the volume to highest while throwing things around in the living room until 2 or 3 am. When my boyfriend went out and told her to adult up, she threw a beer bottle at him and yelled she hates him. He dodged and didn't get hurt, but it was still pretty scary. Not to mention about two months ago, she got so mad about some small things and kicked him out of the house. She asked him to move back eventually but he just constantly living under great mental and psychological pressure from her. And of course she threats all the time that if he dare do anything against her, she gonna call the cop and take him out of her will. I wonder if there is anything we can do about this terrifying situation right now. I worry about the safety of both me and my boyfriend.

[wess1881]

Move out.

[Dogmatique]

My question involves criminal law for the state of: FL

My boyfriend was adopted, and her mom clearly has some psychological issues, she treated him like treating a pet. If she's happy, she would buy things for him, take him out to eat, etc; but if things are not going her way, she gets all crazy and dangerous. She put him in mental hospital for two month when he was 18 just because she thought he was depressed while he was perfectly fine. Now he is 23 and she still wants to control everything. Last week, one night I was sleeping over in his room and I told her I needed to get up early to work the next morning, but them got into a fight again that night because he doesn't want to take the class she wanted him to take. Then she got all upset and turned TV on at midnight and turned the volume to highest while throwing things around in the living room until 2 or 3 am. When my boyfriend went out and told her to adult up, she threw a beer bottle at him and yelled she hates him. He dodged and didn't get hurt, but it was still pretty scary. Not to mention about two months ago, she got so mad about some small things and kicked him out of the house. She asked him to move back eventually but he just constantly living under great mental and psychological pressure from her. And of course she threats all the time that if he dare do anything against her, she gonna call the cop and take him out of her will. I wonder if there is anything we can do about this terrifying situation right now. I worry about the safety of both me and my boyfriend.

What's your end goal?

[aardvarc]

She put him in mental hospital for two month when he was 18 just because she thought he was depressed while he was perfectly fine.

That's not how it works. Parents don't get to "put" their children in a hospital...mental heath or otherwise. The HOSPITAL would be the entity making that decision, after doing their OWN evaluation.

Now he is 23 and she still wants to control everything.

Then he says "goodbye" and leaves to live his own life. It really IS that simple.

When my boyfriend went out and told her to adult up, she threw a beer bottle at him and yelled she hates him. He dodged and didn't get hurt, but it was still pretty scary. Not to mention about two months ago, she got so mad about some small things and kicked him out of the house. She asked him to move back eventually but he just constantly living under great mental and psychological pressure from her.

If he chooses to continue to live there, that's his problem. His solution is to LEAVE. His mother doesn't owe him a roof over his head. He's an adult.

And of course she threats all the time that if he dare do anything against her, she gonna call the cop and take him out of her will.

Ok. So?

I wonder if there is anything we can do about this terrifying situation right now. I worry about the safety of both me and my boyfriend.

GO SOMEWHERE ELSE.

[cbg]

There is a very simple solution. He grows a pair, pulls up his big boy pants, and moves the hell out. He is an adult; he is under no obligation to live with his mother. Any time he wants out, he walks out the door and there's not a damn thing she can do about it.

[CourtClerk]

He needs to move out and if she were on here somewhere by chance, I'd tell her to leave his girlfriend at the door. You have no business spending the night at his house. Take him to yours since it appears that your parents would be more permissive.

[EA1070a]

He needs to move out and if she were on here somewhere by chance, I'd tell her to leave his girlfriend at the door. You have no business spending the night at his house. Take him to yours since it appears that your parents would be more permissive.

Can you imagine the chutzpah it would take to tell this guy's mom to tone it down because OP has to get up early for work? Uy.

He is free to move out and it's quite obvious that mom doesn't want you playing house in her house. Stay away.

HE needs to adult up and get out of mom's house.