Accusing Somebody of a Sex Offense When They Threaten You With a Restraining Order

[Mr. Knowitall]

Here's one idea: Act like a grown-up and move on with your life.

[Dave3827]

Here's one idea: Act like a grown-up and move on with your life.

ok, but how should i defend myself in the 1% chance she were to get an order?

[cbg]

Defend yourself against what?

[cdwjava]

She called me saying let's date and I called back two weeks later. She got mad when I called her out on something and randomly said she wants to get an order. What do you want me to do

I am suggesting again that you stop having contact with her. If you have not threatened her or made repeated unwanted communications, she almost certainly cannot get a restraining order. But, you seem to be trying your best to make it happen.

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ok, but how should i defend myself in the 1% chance she were to get an order?

You go into court on the date assigned by the court and explain why there is no grounds for the order to be made "permanent."

[Dave3827]

No I am not planning on further contact at all whatsoever. Hate when people try to use the law as their personal hit man or to try to ruin people. I don't like that an order can restrict you from buying guns.

However, who knows she hates me and is jealous enough to do it. A lawyer is better than going alone I don't like courts and judges and might act up and cuss the life out of her and the judge and get in trouble.

Regardless, I don't think she'll do anything anyway.

[cdwjava]

No I am not planning on further contact at all whatsoever. Hate when people try to use the law as their personal hit man or to try to ruin people. I don't like that an order can restrict you from buying guns.

Well, when people feel that they are being harassed and "no" doesn't work, then the law is a logical next step.

If you don't like the fact that a TRO stops you from buying guns, don't do anything that might convince a court to issue one.

However, who knows she hates me and is jealous enough to do it. A lawyer is better than going alone I don't like courts and judges and might act up and cuss the life out of her and the judge and get in trouble.

Regardless, I don't think she'll do anything anyway.

If you follow your original statement and no longer contact her, then you should not have anything to worry about.

[Dave3827]

What would ppl say if the situation was reversed, and i was a 28 yo guy banging a 16 yo girl? Obviously I would be demonized here, reported to the fbi etc.. Ppl do not take the crime too seriously when a female does it

[cdwjava]

What would ppl say if the situation was reversed, and i was a 28 yo guy banging a 16 yo girl? Obviously I would be demonized here, reported to the fbi etc.. Ppl do not take the crime too seriously when a female does it

I'd say if the 16 year old girl was here years later threatening extortion she should also face the possibility of criminal charges for any threats or blackmail.

You can twist it all you want, but, the long and short of it is that the two of you have had a strange, twisted, and lengthy relationship and now that you did not like the response she gave you when you wanted what YOU wanted, you want to know if you can send her to prison. Yes, she committed a couple of potential felonies for engaging in sexual relations with you and sending you pornography. But, your actions linking a threat to report her actions to the police unless you get something from her (like NOT obtaining a TRO, or providing sexual favors) is also a felony that holds state prison time.

Sure, she was immature and whacked for seeking out the sexual favors of a minor, but, that was four years ago. And while the act is still technically able to be prosecuted, if you were to raise it now because you got mad at her the police and the prosecutor would be very unlikely to pursue it.

So, one more time ... leave her be, move on and grow up. See if you can enter into a mature and HEALTHY relationship rather than whatever that one was.

[Dave3827]

OK. I attempted your last comment as well... Anyhow, if that's what she wants, then that's what she'll get