Accusing Somebody of a Sex Offense When They Threaten You With a Restraining Order

[Dave3827]

My question involves criminal law for the state of: CA

This female who is now 32 has just threatened me with a bs restraining order just because she was upset over some of our texts.

Needless to say, I am not even contacting her (aside from like 1 phone call) 1 minute after she said do not contact, after that, I ceased.

But I save all my texts and phone calls.

She was 28 and I was 16 and we would phone sex etc, and I have records upon records and phone call records of all them.

Is it illegal for a woman to have phone sex with a minor, send naked images to a minor(which I have dated, timed,email record), and three, will she actually go to jail and be criminally charged?

[cdwjava]

One single contact in 4 years is not likely to get a restraining order. If however, this has been an ongoing thing for the past three or four years, depending on the content of your communications you might very well be subject to a restraining order. Though, if she was sending a minor naked images and making sexual commentary to you as a minor, she is not going to want to make this an issue. But, as you are no longer a minor and kept this to yourself, I doubt it will be too huge a deal should your actions now rise to the level of harassment, stalking, blackmail or threats.

That being said, stop communicating with her in any way. Leave her be and go your own way as well.

[Dave3827]

It was texts recently.she got mad because I called her out on bs.threatened to get an order because I texted her to meet for sex, apparently sometimes she loves it and sometimes she wants an order.

Regardless, can I slap her with crime if she wants to threaten me further with an order? Is it wise to even let her know what I have on her or not.

Honestly, I find people going to the law childish, but this chick has purposely pissed me of so much in the past few years I wouldn't mind shoving her in prison and allowing the long letter of the law punish her for her crimes, and I'm not the rat out type

[cdwjava]

It was texts recently.she got mad because I called her out on bs.threatened to get an order because I texted her to meet for sex, apparently sometimes she loves it and sometimes she wants an order.

Then stop communicating with her! It really is quite simple!

Regardless, can I slap her with crime if she wants to threaten me further with an order? Is it wise to even let her know what I have on her or not.

Threatening to report her for a crime unless she does what you want is a serious felony in CA ... it is called extortion (aka "blackmail"). I doubt the police or the court will look on any revenge report you make with any sympathy and it is likely to backfire on you.

Honestly, I find people going to the law childish, but this chick has purposely pissed me of so much in the past few years I wouldn't mind shoving her in prison and allowing the long letter of the law punish her for her crimes, and I'm not the rat out type

You can both go to prison. Or, maybe just you.

True victims need the law for help ... you want to use it to get your way and pay her back for bruising your childish ego. Grow up and move on.

[Dave3827]

No, I'm not threatening her to get my way.I am saying if she somehow decides to get an order on me (she just hates me let her try anyway), should I tell her I can report her to or not?

Needless to say she commited a crime that could send her to prison.

I am a victim, I was raped

[cdwjava]

No, I'm not threatening her to get my way.I am saying if she somehow decides to get an order on me (she just hates me let her try anyway), should I tell her I can report her to or not?

You can tell her that, but, it will still look vindictive to the police and the prosecutor. CAN she be charged? Sure. And, depending on whyat she claims you said to her, you might be able to be charged as well.

Needless to say she commited a crime that could send her to prison.

I am a victim, I was raped

No, you were NOT "raped." Rape is done by force or fear. She engaged in unlawful acts, but, unless done by force or fear, it was not rape.

COULD she go to prison for sending you nude photos of herself? Yes. Would it be likely? No.

[Dave3827]

It better be likely. She should see prison because she's a c*nt. Playing games, one week she calls me to go out, next week plays with my mind. I think she has psychologically damaged me. What kind of woman fks a 17yo and phone sexes him?

[Taxing Matters]

It better be likely. She should see prison because she's a c*nt. Playing games, one week she calls me to go out, next week plays with my mind. I think she has psychologically damaged me.

We don't send people to prison because they are merely irritating, play dating games, or don’t do what you want them to do. If you don’t like how she’s acting then just stop having anything to with her. It’s really not difficult. Trying to get her sent to prison now just because you don’t like the games she’s playing comes across as overly vindictive and, frankly, a bit immature. I can’t see the police and prosecutor being real eager to help you with that.

Phone sex and sending you naked pictures are not likely to get her prosecuted, let alone jail. If she actually had sex with you at age 17 and the sex took place in California, that would be more serious. Still no guarantee the prosecutor would be interested in it now after so many years. But understand that if you make that criminal complaint, she may well respond with a complaint about your posssible harrassment of her. Would the possibility that she might go to prison be worth the risk that you might also end up facing criminal prosecution? Think carefully about what you wish for, because you may get more than you bargained for here.

[cdwjava]

It better be likely. She should see prison because she's a c*nt. Playing games, one week she calls me to go out, next week plays with my mind. I think she has psychologically damaged me. What kind of woman fks a 17yo and phone sexes him?

What kind of ADULT (as you now are) maintains such a relationship and thinks that if he threatens someone that they will give in to his demands?

I seriously doubt you will appear to be the sympathetic party here.

Stop contacting her and move on with your life, and the chances of a restraining order will be slim to nil.

[Dave3827]

She called me saying let's date and I called back two weeks later. She got mad when I called her out on something and randomly said she wants to get an order. What do you want me to do