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    Default How Long Do I Have to "Store" My Ex-Husbands Property

    My question involves a marriage in the state of: Oregon

    The Divorce was finalized in February of 2015, and the only thing listed for him is his "personal property". He moved to Idaho (his home state) before the divorce & loaded up a whole pickup load of stuff to take with him & told me verbally that he didn't want any more of the stuff at the house.

    Now the divorce is final & although he has actually been gone for over a year from the state, he is now stating that he wants his tools & various other items. He is very angry because our 15 & 16 year old daughters don't want to go to Idaho for "visitations". He told me that he had over $30,000 worth of tools (completely ridiculous), and he's going to assign one of his old buddies that he use to hang around with to come to my house to do an "inventory of the tools" and if anything is missing - I will have to file a claim for the $30,000 against my homeowners insurance. He has allowed my sons from my prior marriage to use his tools, and one of them is on drugs. If anything is actually gone, I would guess it was sold for drugs; but he gave them permission to use anything they wanted. I didn't.

    My ex-husband is on heavy meds because of a heart attack & several strokes, and has been an alcoholic for many years. He is use to getting his own way through intimidation & threats. Is it possible to get a protective order when he has visitation rights (although the teenagers don't want to see him)? I guess that question is for another forum....sorry.

    Questions:

    Do I have to allow his friend to search my property to do an "inventory" and report back to him. The friend is creepy and I have sole ownership of the property through the divorce.

    At what point in time after a divorce can any property be considered abandoned, or do I have to allow him to come onto my property at any time in the future to retrieve whatever he considers his.

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    Default Re: How Long Do I Have to "Store" My Ex-Husbands Property

    Quote Quoting country45
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    My question involves a marriage in the state of: Oregon

    The Divorce was finalized in February of 2015, and the only thing listed for him is his "personal property". He moved to Idaho (his home state) before the divorce & loaded up a whole pickup load of stuff to take with him & told me verbally that he didn't want any more of the stuff at the house.
    In other words, you have no evidence he had said that to you.


    Now the divorce is final & although he has actually been gone for over a year from the state, he is now stating that he wants his tools & various other items. He is very angry because our 15 & 16 year old daughters don't want to go to Idaho for "visitations".
    If he had court ordered visitation I'd be a bit peeved, too. Do they have a choice LEGALLY speaking or are you just not making them go as ordered?

    He told me that he had over $30,000 worth of tools (completely ridiculous), and he's going to assign one of his old buddies that he use to hang around with to come to my house to do an "inventory of the tools" and if anything is missing - I will have to file a claim for the $30,000 against my homeowners insurance.
    So he's not suggesting a stranger stop by. Good so far.

    He has allowed my sons from my prior marriage to use his tools, and one of them is on drugs. If anything is actually gone, I would guess it was sold for drugs; but he gave them permission to use anything they wanted. I didn't
    Don't be cute. Tell the court that, and you'll be smacked down 3 ways from Sunday.


    My ex-husband is on heavy meds because of a heart attack & several strokes, and has been an alcoholic for many years. He is use to getting his own way through intimidation & threats. Is it possible to get a protective order when he has visitation rights (although the teenagers don't want to see him)? I guess that question is for another forum....sorry.
    I can take care of that right here. If he has court ordered visitation, you have those kids dressed and ready to go until a court says otherwise. And again, don't get cute. If he DOES have scheduled visitation, forget trying to use a restraining order as a means to get your own way. It will not end well for you.


    Questions:

    Do I have to allow his friend to search my property to do an "inventory" and report back to him. The friend is creepy and I have sole ownership of the property through the divorce.
    Who would you suggest as an alternative?


    At what point in time after a divorce can any property be considered abandoned, or do I have to allow him to come onto my property at any time in the future to retrieve whatever he considers his.
    Finalized February 2015? Send him a letter, CRRR, informing him that he has 30 days from receipt of the notice to arrange pick-up of his property.

    If you insist on being present, give him a reasonable selection of dates he can select.

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    Default Re: How Long Do I Have to "Store" My Ex-Husbands Property

    I don't know why you're so angry. Our daughters have lived with him in some serious alcoholic rages for their whole lives...they have all their friends here and the 16 yr old has her own car. Do you suggest i tie them up? He doesn't want to come back to Oregon because he has several civil suits filled against him for $$ owed. I have taken screen shots & kept all threatening emails. While living here he use to shoot across the neighbors drive (we live in the country) because he wouldn't let him borrow their tractor. The sheriff was here often. I have not prevented him from seeing the girls...he is the one who left the state, custody says he is to pick up the kids here in Oregon at their house. The neighbor heard him say he was leaving everything for me , other than the pickup &trailer load. "Don't be cute."... doesn't sound like a very mature response...or lawyer speak. You sound like an angry ex-husband. Don't make the assumption that all divorces are the same.

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    Default Re: How Long Do I Have to "Store" My Ex-Husbands Property

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    I don't know why you're so angry. Our daughters have lived with him in some serious alcoholic rages for their whole lives...they have all their friends here and the 16 yr old has her own car. Do you suggest i tie them up?
    I suggest you stop disobeying a court order.

    He doesn't want to come back to Oregon because he has several civil suits filled against him for $$ owed. I have taken screen shots & kept all threatening emails. While living here he use to shoot across the neighbors drive (we live in the country) because he wouldn't let him borrow their tractor. The sheriff was here often. I have not prevented him from seeing the girls...he is the one who left the state, custody says he is to pick up the kids here in Oregon at their house
    So when he turns up, you'll be glad to follow the court order - yes?.

    The neighbor heard him say he was leaving everything for me , other than the pickup &trailer load. "Don't be cute."... doesn't sound like a very mature response
    What's your game plan when Dad brings 5 witnesses who will say otherwise?

    I think you need to read your own words again. Particular this part:

    "He has allowed my sons from my prior marriage to use his tools, and one of them is on drugs. If anything is actually gone, I would guess it was sold for drugs; but he gave them permission to use anything they wanted. I didn't."

    Try that one in court and you won't like the result.


    or lawyer speak. You sound like an angry ex-husband. Don't make the assumption that all divorces are the same.
    Well, you're 0-3 so far.

    Look. You're letting all kinds of crazy make you nuts and that's not healthy for you. He's hurt you, clearly. But that doesn't mean you get to ignore court orders.

    I think you still need to tell us please, whether the children have the legal right to refuse, or whether you're just not bothering to send them. I suggest you kindly tell them that they don't get to choose which rules they want to follow. For all of the bad things you're alleging, you did call CPS, yes?

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    Default Re: How Long Do I Have to "Store" My Ex-Husbands Property

    make sure you follow the order as written, keep your drug addict kid away from your ex's tools

    as for the claim for 30,000 that is BS, if anything is missing and he can prove it's missing and he can prove you are liable, he can demand the fair market value (ebay/craigslist/amazon used&new for similar condition) of what is missing, not the purchase price of the entire collection.

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    Default Re: How Long Do I Have to "Store" My Ex-Husbands Property

    Thank you .. a reasonable response to my question, finally.

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    Actually, the prior information you received was reasonable. The problem was, it wasn't what you wanted to hear.

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