How Can I Convince the Judge That My Ex Needs Supervised Visitation

[cbg]

Nothing but bring someone into the household with a record of domestic violence....

[BrittneyD1234567]

I didn't bring him into the household. I moved in with him. And that's still not putting my son in danger. He doesn't get hit or yelled at!

[Mr. Knowitall]

Let's be clear: By "suddenly wants to be part", you mean, "is presently the primary physical custodian".

[cbg]

Whether you moved in with him, or he moved in with you, is really immaterial. Either way, you put your son and this individual together. And he hasn't been hit or yelled at - yet

[Mr. Knowitall]

And that's still not putting my son in danger. He doesn't get hit or yelled at!

You told us:

He hit me once, but I took my baby from him and I hit him first.?

In other words, at a minimum your child was present when domestic violence occurred, and it appears possible that the domestic violence involved a tug-of-war over your child. That is conduct that a court can consider as placing a child in danger.

[BrittneyD1234567]

I have physical custody. His dad only has joint legal custody and the judge said we should work towards joint physical. But he didn't say we have to. He just told us to follow the Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines. But my sons dad doesn't deserve half time with my son or even the visitation the guidelines call for. He decided to get engaged to his gf and now they having a baby in December. So I want him on supervised visits starting in December.

[wess1881]

Getting supervised visits doesn't always mean the court thinks you are going to beat your son. It is because the court believes it to be in the best interests of the child. Lets recap, shall we?

Now he is wanting to get me in contempt of court for not letting him have his visit. But last time we went the judge said it was okay to deny visitation. Will the judge even do anything if he tries taking me to court?

You withheld visitation from dad, and have shown the court that you do not understand how to follow a court order. That is NOT in the best interests of the child to have a custodial parent that interferes with the relationship between the child and the other parent.

My current bf has a d felony for domestic battery. He has hit me once which I made sure to let my sons dad know and all he did was say he wanted our son living with him. He didn't even show concern for me. My bf doesn't hit my son or yell at him. He's only hit me once and although he makes threats of kicking me out, he's never done it. My ex isn't able to get a lawyer but neither am I. So why would he even get custody when our sons not in danger??? Doesn't he see he's wasting his time?

You live with an abusive felon. It is NOT in the best interests of the child to live with a parent that lives with a violent felon, and it is NOT in the best interests of the child to live with a parent that views this as no big deal. It looks like you are choosing your boyfriend over the safety of your child which, once again, is NOT in the best interests of the child.

He hit me once, but I took my baby from him and I hit him first.

And now the violent felon is being violent and felonious with the child in their physical possession, yet you still don't seem to see this as a big issue because it was just "one time".

I'm not going to lie, I've said some pretty nasty stuff over text and voicemail when I got mad at him. I made a mistake by leaving a voicemail calling him names and my son was talking in the background and my sons dad said he could hear him making noises which shows I talked bad about him in front of our son. I only did that once. I tried to show my sons dad that my bf is the one who starts arguments so I recorded our conversation a couple times and he started yelling and cussing. But my sons dad said he could hear our son clearly in the messages.

I want him to have supervised visits. I think he's said stuff about me in front of my son. I've never heard him say anything. But I think he has, so I want his visits supervised. Plus him and his "fiancee" are having a baby in December. So I told my ex that I'm going to have the judge do the supervised visits starting in December. How can I make sure the judge does what I ask?

So, YOU admit you have trashed talked Dad in front of the child, but you want DAD to have supervised visits based on the probability that he might possibly maybe have somewhat talked bad about you? Yet, the child is currently in custody of Dad, placed there BY YOU? But Dad needs supervised visits, because he might have a dirty mouth?

Are you real?

[Mr. Knowitall]

You have told us that you voluntarily placed the child with his father due to the domestic violence in your household:

I told my sons dad that he could have our son until I get a job and on my own.

I told him he can have my son until I have a job. If I change my mind can I get into any kind of trouble?

The past order may have granted you physical custody, you have told us that as of right now now dad is exercising primary physical custody.

You really have to get past your notion that you're going to take custody away from the father with only supervised visitation to dad, based on your dislike of his girlfriend -- and that's before we get into your history of refusing visitation or the domestic battery issues in your own household.

[cbg]

No, no, Wess. You're not getting it at all.

He decided to get engaged to his gf and now they having a baby in December. So I want him on supervised visits starting in December.

Dad had the temerity to replace her. So she's punishing Dad.

[wess1881]

No, no, Wess. You're not getting it at all.

He decided to get engaged to his gf and now they having a baby in December. So I want him on supervised visits starting in December.

Dad had the temerity to replace her. So she's punishing Dad.

MAN! Wish I saw that earlier, would have saved me a lot of typing!