That's the daycare's policy, not the law.
That's the daycare's policy, not the law.
How do you determine that your child is emotionally distressed? Because she won't poop? Children tend to do that when they are out of their normal routine, it is not always a result of a "bad" visit.
Wess1881,she would do this for weeks after a visit with him. She would also come home and tell me "Mommy the girl was crying." She was referring to his girlfriend. Every visit it was the same thing. I magine he was abusing her as he did to me. He was horrible to me beyond belief. I suspected abuse. I told him in a nice way that our daughter shouldn't see this young lady cry like this all the time. After I told him that he stopped seeing our daughter for months. This was July 2014. He didn't ask about her again until January 2015. During this time the constipation ceased. It came back for a couple of weeks after his visit in January. This happens under no other circumstances.
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Her aunt also noticed the constipation as well when he would randomly show up to her house to see if our daughter was there. I am a single mother. The last thing I needed was a child with an impaction which did happen.
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Dogmatique, thank you for clearing that up. Regardless he is ducking child support payments. In a year I will be an RN so I won't need his help,not that I have been getting any to begin with.
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Cbg, thank you for the clarification on the usage of the name. Could I tell the daycare they have to use the usage name?
With all of this suspicion of abuse, what did you do about it?
Dogmatique, I just lessen the visits. When he did come around and wanted to see her I put time limitations on them. Other than that I can't not say there is actual abuse going on in his home. I would be a considerded a laughing stock. He is a narcissist and good at making himself look good and others look crazy. I want to change the visitation order but I am fearful of retaliation, it has happened before. Unless he doesn't show up like he didn't for child support.
Dogmatique, I just don't want my child involved in that. That would be a CPS case. I will leave it alone I just know abusers never change. He was actually diagnosed bipolar as a child from what I know. His behavior is textbook narcissist. Not diagnosed Narcissist.
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He abused me so I wouldn't put it past him.
Then stop bandying around that allegation, too.
The problem is that you're alleging a lot, but can't prove anything. You have no grounds to modify. What do you want the court to do? They're not going to penalize Dad without having a good reason for doing so and for good reason. Think about it - would you be happy that he got an emergency order because he accused you of being on meth?
See where I'm coming from?
(And are you in counseling for the abuse?)
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Do you understand what you've just said here?
You've just told me that you'd rather let her go with Dad - who you allege is guilty of neglect - than involve child services?
Dogmatique, I said I lessen the visits and eventually he stopped seeing her after I told him what my four year old told me about the woman crying all the time. You are right I have no concrete proof. I spoke witha Domestic counselor and lawyer and said until something physical happens there is nothing I can do. So I do what I LEGALLLY can do for now.
Maybe I am saying this because the girlfriend purposely got a job at my job and now he has a reason to show up at my job(which he did). So yes I go to counseling (Domestic Violence)especially because of the above situation. I will take your advice on the modifications and leave it alone. Thank you.