Dogmatique, I said I lessen the visits and eventually he stopped seeing her after I told him what my four year old told me about the woman crying all the time. You are right I have no concrete proof. I spoke witha Domestic counselor and lawyer and said until something physical happens there is nothing I can do. So I do what I LEGALLLY can do for now.
Maybe I am saying this because the girlfriend purposely got a job at my job and now he has a reason to show up at my job(which he did). So yes I go to counseling (Domestic Violence)especially because of the above situation. I will take your advice on the modifications and leave it alone. Thank you.

