I don't really know what to say, to be honest. We can talk about whatever has happened or not happened in the past but it isn't really going to help you right now.
Some of these sound dodgy, but it might be a start: https://groups.psychologytoday.com/r...pec=5&spec=252
https://therapists.psychologytoday.c...MO/Jasper.html
You may have even found those yourself. But you have to come to a place of acceptance because if you fight the system, you're going to lose. There's only so much they can do with a teen who already has a significant record.
Does the other parent help out at all?
The next thing I'm going to suggest isn't pleasant to hear, but it needs to be said. There are times when the only realistic option is what basically amounts to signing the minor over to the state. Has anyone discussed this with you?

