I didn't see a section for civil rights, but I hope this is the right spot.

I am not sure if this violates my civil rights or not, but hopefully someone can shed some light on the situation. My ex-boyfriend and I split up and we own a duplex so he moved upstairs about 3-4 months ago (he was accidentally put on the deed, only I am on the mortgage so I can't make him leave). We have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and the family court judge ordered a temporary order for custody and visitation to be 50/50 residency and visitation and we have a temporary schedule to follow for now until we can work somthing definate out (which I am fine with). However, the judge also put in the order that neither of us can have unrelated individuals spend the night and that neither of us can have a boyfriend or girlfriend over to the house for more than 15 minutes and it should only be for drop off and pick ups. Now, I own this house, I don't rent. How can they tell me who I can and cannot have over and for how long? I can see them ordering that for the nights I have my daughter, but not when I don't have her and he's not even home upstairs. I agreed to it a few months ago when I was angry because we broke up because he was cheating on me and he kept having his girlfriend over all the time (he has continued to have her over for hours at a time when I am not there I am told). But now (4 months later) I have moved on and met someone and it is very difficult for me to see him and allow our relationship to grow due to the distance between us and me having children I am not about to cart around to see someone, especially when I own my own home and should be able to have anyone over whenever I want.

If I continue to have this person over, what are the ramifications of the family court? We are both good parents, but the judge said if we can't get along he will discuss foster care, which I believe is a scare tactic, we just can't get along with him living upstairs. I am a very good mother and there is no reason to give my ex full custody or residency, but I really feel my rights are being violated and they are forcing me into things I do not agree with. What is your intake on this? We go back to court in two weeks.

Thank you!

Diane Barry
Livonia, NY
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