Accused of Molesting a Teenage Girl

[John_28]

If the police search his devices and find nothing, then the police will say that he erased all the evidence. If the police want to nail this guy, a lack of evidence will not stop a trial from taking place. Heck, a lack of evidence may not even stop a conviction from occurring.

[Who'sThatGuy]

If the police search his devices and find nothing, then the police will say that he erased all the evidence. If the police want to nail this guy, a lack of evidence will not stop a trial from taking place. Heck, a lack of evidence may not even stop a conviction from occurring.

You can erase all you want, it would still be there.

[GameMaster78]

My lawyer has already seen some of what they supposedly have against me. He hasn't seen any type of conversation like that taking place. All he kept telling me before the preliminary was that this girl was saying I sent her a pic of my privates, which she then changed it to happening on FaceTime during the deposition.

Thing is, though, I didn't do either one. I have evidence based on this matter.

I know I can still be convicted, because everyone apparently thinks children are innocent in this matter, despite the fact they CAN and WILL create lies if they want to, to get anyone in trouble for whatever silly reason they concoct. However, at the same time, there are children who aren't lying about situations like this. The ones who cry wolf give those who have actually gone through this a bad name in my opinion, because you don't know who's telling the truth or who is lying.

It sucks, because innocent people go to jail for things like this. I am given hope, because I have a lot of people praying for me. I am a strong believer in God, and I have been praying God will put the right jurors on the stand who will see through the lies she's telling, or that more charges will get dropped like one already has.

I know a lady I used to work with, whose son went through this with his own daughter. She tells me the charges against him were more severe than mine (although child sex crimes are serious no matter what because children shouldn't go through that kind of situation), but the jury saw through the son's daughter's lies and found him not guilty.

I realize it's a 50/50 shot, but as a believer, I believe God will pull me through this, despite the fact I worry at times about a jury who will see that I am a guy who didn't know how to say no to a girl who has issues, when she leaned in and pecked me on the lips. Peck, as in the way you kiss your own mother. Reading these forums over the months, I saw other posts where adults actually said they kissed minors due to caring for them, and were replied with posts stating that kissing isn't illegal, because it doesn't constitute a sexual act. Mine definitely doesn't constitute a sexual act.

Here's the thing. During her deposition she only stated one thing, ONE THING, that was the truth. I had always told this girl it isn't alright for an adult and minor to do anything sexual. She told that to my lawyer when he asked. So, if I told her it wasn't alright for adults to do sexual things with minors, or for she and I to do anything like that, why would I do things like show her my privates, or touch her sexually, or go to a park to play tonsil hockey with a minor, when I could go to a site dedicated to adults finding each other for more intimate encounters? The word minor to me, means no touching in any shape, way, or form, even if they are of the age of consent. Minor means minor in my eyes. They're still kids.

Now that I told people I am a believer, could anyone here possibly throw me in their prayers? My real name is David, and it would be appreciated. I always tell people, if I am guilty of something, I will do the world a favor and throw myself away. However, there are times innocent people are accused of crimes they didn't commit. I am one of those people, and that's why I chose trial.

I need God to not let me be the victim of the Trial Tax bull crap the justice system likes to pull, or let me be taken from the life of my children over this girl's lies.

Sorry for the long post, but as a writer, I am usually always chatty. I will leave this post with this. She lied to the face of my lawyer about a great many things. We have a lot of evidence to show she is lying about all of it. I just need the jury to see this and help restore my full freedom.

EDIT: Sorry for not answering the question of the one asking if the cops took the phone I had and the one I bought her. Yes, they took both. She mentioned to me in a text she deleted all photos. I told her not to worry about it, because they weren't anything nasty. She and a friend of my son took a ton of selfies while at the park. I had those pics so there was no reason for her to worry about those being deleted.

The prosecutors haven't shown my lawyer anything like a FaceTime conversation, or any pics. However, if they can get the pics, somehow - someway - they will see that none of them were nasty pics. From what I gather, FaceTime conversations are live and over the air. There is no way to get FaceTime conversations after they've ended, but if they did, they would see she is lying, because she told my lawyer we didn't talk over FaceTime the day after we all went to the park. During that conversation, I wanted to confirm with her I didn't touch her sexually at the park, because the ride we rode made me feel sick, and she said "no, you didn't." So, two things if they got a hold of it -

1: She acknowledged no sexual touching in any way while at the park
2: She would be busted in yet another lie, because she told my lawyer we didn't talk over FaceTime the following day, when we did. She already lied during this part, any way, because she said we only texted, never talked on the phone or FaceTime, so I printed out a copy of my phone records from that day and we actually talked on the phone that day. So, that's one of the lies I can prove. Whether minor or not, it shows she lied to my lawyers face, and that conversation is pivotal to my case, because that's when she confirmed to me nothing sexual took place at the park.

[tonynewman]

why do you think she is doing all these things to you? what does she gain by doing this? just wondering

[GameMaster78]

I really have no clue why. I did care for the girl, and we challenged each other to wait for each other.

She seemed really nice and all during all of the phone conversations we would have every day. I would try and help her with any issues she was facing. I have had it easy in life, and made a lot of money, so I always extended my luck to my son's friends who weren't fortunate. I bought some yearly passes to our local theme parks, and this girl kept complaining about the lack of having a cellphone, so I bought her one, because I could do it under a "framily plan" to save me money every month on me and my son's phone plan (bought him a cellphone the same day).

After all of this went down, she still seemed nice, and she called me one day and said "sorry I ruined your life." I told her, "well, it isn't against the law for someone to peck someone on the lips, so as long as they know that's all that happened, I should be fine." She said, "that's all that did happen that day."

That's all that did happen, and I wish to God I had recorded that phone conversation, because then when she created these lies, it would already be proven that she is lying, because she told me before all of these charges popped up, that nothing sexual happened at the park. I simply didn't tell her no when she leaned in and pecked me. I was put in a situation I've never been in before, and I didn't know how to handle it. Even though I cared for her, that doesn't mean I want to do anything with her, because she is a minor and to me everything is off limits, except for talking. Plus, I'm not your average guy. I don't even care about sex. I care more about finding someone I can spend the rest of my life with.

All rambling aside, this is what I thought at first.

At first I thought she was being made to lie. The first lie she created, is saying I showed her a pic of my privates (that's how my lawyer worded it). During her deposition, she said it happened over FaceTime. I thought, well maybe her parents are making her lie, or perhaps the DA is coaching her.

One day before the preliminary, my lawyer calls me saying the girl is now saying I touched her twice sexually at the park, but the DA wanted to plea for me to spend 5 years in prison, 15 years suspended, and lifetime registration. I told my lawyer "I can't sit in prison over things I didn't do," and chose to go to trial.

Sometime during the last conversation she and I had, she totally changed who she was (unless she was a fake all along and she can easily fool people). Friends of my son said she was telling them "she saw an opportunity and she took it" when it came to creating lies against me to get me thrown in prison. She told one of my son's friends, that she is lying to get me thrown in prison. Whatever this opportunity is, it's what got her to create these lies.

Perhaps her parents told her if she lied against me, she could be free to do whatever she wants? I know after all of this happened, her parents wouldn't even let her take out the trash. Now she seems to be free to do whatever. Maybe she created these lies in order to buy her freedom?

Another theory I had, is perhaps she is doing this out of spite, because she wanted to run away from home the day after we hung out at the park. She kept saying she wanted to be taken away by the state. She wouldn't tell me why. However, I kept telling her it's breaking the law, and she was like "well your son has my back, why don't you." I told her, "I do, but it's illegal." Maybe she's mad I didn't give her, her way?

She told people as the months went on that she never cared for me, and she only talked to me because I had money. Maybe because she doesn't have access to my money, she decided to create these lies?

It's a big mess of lies, and thankfully I have a lot - and I mean A LOT - of evidence to show she's lying about small things and big things.

Yes, I did care for the girl. Caring doesn't mean you want to break the law for said person though. Breaking the law in my eyes has always been a big no-no. I have a strong sense of justice. Whatever the case, she pulled all of this on me, due to some opportunity or for whatever reason she has. Now I need God to make sure the right humans get in the jury seat, while working through my attorney, so someone who didn't commit these crimes can be found not guilty.

The lesson I learned from this is it's obviously not the era for trusting humans to do the right thing in life, which is to not create lies to hurt other humans. We all die. We should all die with a clean conscience, knowing we helped our fellow man/woman, and not lie to destroy them.

[tonynewman]

"I really have no clue why. I did care for the girl, and we challenged each other to wait for each other."

so you could say you told her that you would wait for her to turn a legal age, so you could start a relationship basically, and she may have been upset that you may not want to wait for her and find another woman,, something along those lines correct?

[CenTex71]

I really have no clue why. I did care for the girl, and we challenged each other to wait for each other.

This isn't helpful to your case. It casts you as a predator-in-waiting, frankly.

[jk]

Here's the thing. During her deposition she only stated one thing, ONE THING, that was the truth. I had always told this girl it isn't alright for an adult and minor to do anything sexual. She told that to my lawyer when he asked. So, if I told her it wasn't alright for adults to do sexual things with minors, or for she and I to do anything like that, why would I do things like show her my privates, or touch her sexually, or go to a park to play tonsil hockey with a minor, when I could go to a site dedicated to adults finding each other for more intimate encounters? The word minor to me, means no touching in any shape, way, or form, even if they are of the age of consent. Minor means minor in my eyes. They're still kids.

a lot of pedophiles make certain their victims are aware what they are doing is illegal due to the age of the victim. It is used to convince the victim they need to keep the activities secret either claiming the victim will also get in trouble or the pedophile has established a sick relationship with the victim and it is a form of control. Your reasoning is very flawed as a defense.

EDIT: Sorry for not answering the question of the one asking if the cops took the phone I had and the one I bought her. Yes, they took both. She mentioned to me in a text she deleted all photos. I told her not to worry about it, because they weren't anything nasty. She and a friend of my son took a ton of selfies while at the park. I had those pics so there was no reason for her to worry about those being deleted.

so you bought your victim, I mean friend, platonic of course, a phone? This girl, who is a friend of your son and you purchased her a phone.

That doesn't bode well for you.

as to the Facetime issue:

obviously if it was Facetime it was using an Apple product. From what I know, there is a history of the call but nothing of the content stored. It is a streaming video and not retained by Apple as far as I know. I do not believe the carrier can even retain it or view it if they did. There is nothing retained on the phone for a Facetime conversation far as I know as well being a streaming video.

I did care for the girl, and we challenged each other to wait for each other.

another problem for you.

She seemed really nice and all during all of the phone conversations we would have every day. I would try and help her with any issues she was facing.

seriously dude, this was your son's friend. What are you doing having daily conversations with a child?

At first I thought she was being made to lie. The first lie she created, is saying I showed her a pic of my privates (that's how my lawyer worded it). During her deposition, she said it happened over FaceTime. I thought, well maybe her parents are making her lie, or perhaps the DA is coaching her.

there is nothing wrong with her statements there. If you showed her your junk on a Facetime conversation, there is nothing wrong with referring to it as you showing her a pic of your junk since that is essentially what it is.

Sometime during the last conversation she and I had, she totally changed who she was (unless she was a fake all along and she can easily fool people). Friends of my son said she was telling them "she saw an opportunity and she took it" when it came to creating lies against me to get me thrown in prison. She told one of my son's friends, that she is lying to get me thrown in prison. Whatever this opportunity is, it's what got her to create these lies.

an opportunity for what? Prosecuting you would be very hard on a kid. They "get" to testify on a witness stand in front of a bunch of people. They are questioned time and time again about the incidents invovled. Ya, I can see a kid taking the opportunity to put themselves under a microscope for the duration of the prosecution...NOT.

Dude, you have a lot of problems and airing them on the internet is a very bad idea. Your attorney should slap you silly for you doing it. Shut your mouth and speak to only your attorney about this.

[tonynewman]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k4SUl69RFJ8

[GameMaster78]

a lot of pedophiles make certain their victims are aware what they are doing is illegal due to the age of the victim. It is used to convince the victim they need to keep the activities secret either claiming the victim will also get in trouble or the pedophile has established a sick relationship with the victim and it is a form of control. Your reasoning is very flawed as a defense.

I've heard people say this before. What makes it wrong, is that every human isn't the same. In my eyes, an adult and minor performing sexual activities makes me sick to my stomach.

The girl, again, stated that I never thought it was alright to do this before she was legal. Even if she were legal, sex isn't what I'm after in life. Finding someone to spoil rotten and treat like a woman should be treated (the good women not ones who lie and fabricate stuff to hurt others) is my main goal in life. Relationships should never - and I mean NEVER - be based around sex or sexual activities. There's simply more to life and relationships than that. That's just my opinion, though, and I know other people like what they like.

I will never judge my fellow man, though, based on what other sickos in the world have done. If someone tells a minor they care for that it's not alright to do anything bad before they're legal, I'm not going to say that's a predatory tactic, just because real child predators have pulled that stunt before. As humans, we're all different and people shouldn't be judged and categorized based on the actions of some. That's simply wrong in my eyes.