Our daughter has been married almost 7 years to this loser. He got fired from his job as a radio DJ almost 3 years ago after being written up for 'misconduct' several times and has refused to look for any job since. He keeps waiting for ESPN to call and discover him.
Our daughter has a HS diploma but found a part time job that led to a full time position that requires a bit of travel. She is now earning $48,000 a year plus expenses, while hubby lies on the bed playing PS2, or looking at questionable web sites on the computer, locking his 2 daughters into their t.v. room with a bag of cubed cheese, water bottles and the t.v.
He's cheated. He's left out love letters from teen girls he met through the radio station. He's taken money out of their account while daughter was out of town to entertain women at Sport's Bars. He's filled in the check book showing he'd paid her car note, insurance and 2 work cell phone bills. Here she is on the road and discovers all those checks were either faked to cover his spending or were bad checks. She's out of state with no car insurance and no work cells and had to stop and buy a pay and go cell. She couldn't get a hotel room and had to sleep in her car, washing off in a gas station!
After her last trip he accused her of cheating because she owns one pair of black underwear. His mother had given her a $50. gift certificate to Victoria Secret and our daughter bought panties in different colors because she's so tiny, nothing else would fit. He screamed and accused in front of their daughters, calling her horrible names.
He would sleep with the six year old and 3 year old in a full sized bed tho he weighs over 400 lbs. He'd 'buy groceries' for when daughter is away and she'd come home 3 days later and the children had eaten only McDonald's or pizza because there is no food in the house. Not enough milk for a cup of coffee!
She's thrown him out as of Saturday. Every bill except the water bill is in her name. She's opened her own bank account and he's screaming he'll demand alimony and try to take her daughters.
Here's the main problem. She's in Wallingford/ Meriden, Connecticut and hubby has taken so much out of her account that she couldn't put down $50.00 for a retainer. His family is well to do.
Are there any organizations that help women financially with divorce after such incidents?
Her Dad and I are unable to help financially, but if they moved near us, would open our home for them to live, and keep the girls at no charge.