After being married nearly 5 years, my husband has continued to be in a job that pays well below his market value and offers no benefits, 401K, retirement, etc. He continues to "settle" and meanwhile, I continue to build my 401K the maximum allowable, pay the bills where he falls short, and he continues to "dictate" where I shouldn't pay for things my daughter needs/wants [his step-daughter - he has no children.]

Here is the question: How do I go about getting a post-nuptual. I cannot get past the anger and feeling of vulnerability that if this marriage doesn't work out - I will have to surrender 50% of everything I own. The house is in my name, he is the beneficiary of my life insurance policies and 401K. I want to change the beneficiary to my daughter to 100% - in the event of my death.

It will be a tough subject to broach, but if when presented he refuses to sign; I will need a lawyer for divorce so I can cut and run before the losses get any larger.

Are Post nups legal in Michigan and how do I go about getting this legal document in place and are there any other legal documents necessary?