Massachusetts: I am writing from my place of employment. I wish to permanently & immediately end an 8-year (on again, off again) relationship with a very emotionally unstable, violent & suicidal 36-yr-old man I am currently residing with. I am a mature professional, single and 49. Because I cared so much about this individual starting in 1998, I now know I made a serious mistake years ago by taking him "under my wing" in attempts to assist him in alcohol recovery, psychological problems & "get healthy" i.e., Mass Health sign-up, driver's license training, considerable counseling & doctor appts., van purchase for him + insurance (there's tons more I have done for this continuously disrespectful man).
Things have viciously accelerated. He is now addicted to "smoke" & World of Warcraft (addictive computer game) & he refuses to go to work. I have asked him nicely several times to find another place to live, and he refuses. He demands to use my computer, so I keep changing the entry password when he doesn't go to work. Each time, he yells and threatens me until I get up and enter the password. I'm not getting any sleep (we work opposite shifts). He says if I "make" him leave, he will destroy my personal property and erase all my computer files. I have changed passwords on my computer several times after he refuses to go to work for punishment (his broke his from being irresponsible). He has no family and a couple of social friends locally. Same for me..
Currently living together in rental since 2/05 - verbal approval from landlord for him to be
there - not on Lease.
Electric bill (only) in his name since 2/05 (verbal agreement - another mistake).
No job 2/06-7/06; FT 8/06-10/06; finally on 11/27/06 lost job, because of various addictions &
refusal to go to work
I de-commission his van; canceled his insurance 11/16/06 for not going to work as
punishment; this didn't work.
Police report 11/27/06 because he refused to go to work (things came to a "head," I locked him
out, police told him to go to work - he came back & kicked in the door - it won't lock now.)
(2) previous restraining orders in 2001 & 2003 from physically abusing me from drinking (the
court knows him well).
I am emotionally completely finished with this relationship (for good now), but am living in hell & am afraid of damage & possible future physical abuse. I have to be careful, as I don't want to get hurt making the wrong decision on how to remove him. I don't wish to involve the landlord unless I have to (he is unaware of our troubles and damages). I'm afraid this will ruin my excellent reputation with him and not allow me to make a healthy choice in having another roommate in the near future. If so, I can't afford to live there, and I have a lease through August 2007.

