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    Angry Ex wanting to change visitation

    I live in Arkansas - A little background - I found out four days before I had my daughter that my ex was cheating. I filed for divorce after she was born and it was final Nov 1st. She is now 4 months old. In the divorce papers it stated that until she is a year old he is to visit in my house (I am now with my parents until I move out on my own). He signed the papers and didn't take me to court for it. In the final papers it says his visitation is Saturday from 9-5.

    He has NEVER came on a Saturday. He'll go a week or more without calling at times. I have let him come on Thursdays so he can see her. I've never told him he cannot come see her. I have it all wrote down for when he calls/doesn't call and when he comes and how long he stays. He is saying that he wants to take me back to court to get the visitation changed to where he doesn't have to visit her at my house and where he can take her to his house (she is breastfed and will not take formula). He has been living with his girlfriend (who is not yet divorced) since the middle of Sept. He's been harrassing me by asking me for sex almost everytime he calls (my lawyer has been emailed about these times and I have it all saved). My question is, does he have a chance at getting the visitation changed??

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    Default Re: Ex wanting to change visitation

    Q: My question is, does he have a chance at getting the visitation changed?

    A: Yes, about 50-50, more or less.

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    Default Re: Ex wanting to change visitation

    Breastmilk can go into a bottle. You will not be able to use that as a reason why he cannot have visitation at his house.

    Babies can also learn to take formula. (What if something happened to you or your milk supply? The baby still needs to be fed.)

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    Default Re: Ex wanting to change visitation

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    Breastmilk can go into a bottle. You will not be able to use that as a reason why he cannot have visitation at his house.

    Babies can also learn to take formula. (What if something happened to you or your milk supply? The baby still needs to be fed.)
    I am aware that it can go into a bottle - I don't get much out when I pump. I have tried at least 8 different formula's with her and her doctor has been a part of it all - she will not take formula.

    Maybe you didn't mean this in a snotty way but that's the way I took it.

    About the visitation at his house - in our papers it says the baby must remain in a wholesome environment - wouldn't him living with a married woman NOT be wholesome?

    I wouldn't really be upset about this whole thing if he made an effort to be with her.

    Thanks.

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    There's always a chance of getting visitation changed. There's always a chance the judge will say, "Get a breast pump," no matter how much you protest that pumping is hard for you. You have a lawyer, so you should work closely with your lawyer to try to build your case and get the outcome that is in the best interest of your child.

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    Default Re: Ex wanting to change visitation

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    There's always a chance of getting visitation changed. There's always a chance the judge will say, "Get a breast pump," no matter how much you protest that pumping is hard for you. You have a lawyer, so you should work closely with your lawyer to try to build your case and get the outcome that is in the best interest of your child.
    Thanks Aaron. I do have a breast pump - one of the best there is. I have contacted my lawyer and waiting to see what he says.

    Thanks again!

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    Default Re: Ex wanting to change visitation

    By the way-I wasn't being snotty at all. The first sentence was simpy truth. The second was to give you an example of why your "I'm breastfeeding" won't fly. I nursed both of my babies, and don't have any more rights to withhold them from their dad than you do (because of the nursing).

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    Default Re: Ex wanting to change visitation

    I don't want to keep her from him. I have been more than willing to let him come see her anytime he wants to. I've drove the 25 miles to meet up with him so he can see her without coming here. He is the one who decides not to come and see her.

    My main question is, would a judge consider changing his visitation even though he signed the divorce papers stating that he has to visit her at my house until she's 1? I know that in AR they won't change visitation unless something has changed, and nothing has changed at all. I am not even sure if he's really going to file (he said he was before and hasn't yet) but I want to be aware of all the options of what can happen.

    Thanks again.

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