Can You Get Emancipated if Your Parents are Impossible to Live With

[AshlynnRenee]

I am currently 16 years old, just turned 16 in April. I am wanting to get emancipated when I turn 17 and would like to begin the process now. I am however curious as to how strong of a shot I have and would like some feedback. My reasoning is well what every teenager says: my parents are impossible to get along with. But hear me out. My father is an alcoholic. And not a fun one. He was physically abusive to my mom. They have currently been divorced 12 years. He has been emotionally abusive to her as well. Well the physical abuse from him toward me started when I was really little. Let's say 10 years ago. When I was 7 he remarried and the woman had an 11 year old boy. They were married 5 years and the abusive switched from me to my stepbrother. My dad broke his nose once and my father even broke his own toe trying to kick my stepbrother in the stomach and hitting his full metal belt buckle instead. When I was 12 I got my school counselor involved and they got cps involved. CPS did nothing except not allow my dad custody of his new baby while him and his second wife were divorcing. I became depressed at 13. I cut myself and have had 2 suicide attempts. Every time I was in therapy as soon as the therapist tried to diagnose me or say my da needed to change he pulled me out. The emotional abusive got worse as he no longer physically abused me. Now to my mother. She moved six hours away to live with her boyfriend and I followed. When my parents divorced my mom was 23. She left and partied. She was a drug addict and is still battling drinking tho she is nowhere as bad as my dad. Granted my dad did step up and take care of us I will give him that. But my mom always had to have a guy. June of the summer before 9th grade my moms current husband/boyfriend thing sexually assaulted me. It wasn't rape or anything. It was him asking me about sex and blow jobs saying if I was older he would do anything to get with me and he put his hands on my legs, thighs, breasts, waist and butt. I was unaware at the time he was an alcoholic as well as a drug addict and was high and drunk the night this happened. And had been the entire time they were together. Yet she still left me and my 3 other siblings (one of which is his son) alone with him to watch us. Well I told my mom the next day and at first she was telling him they were done. But then they wants me to work it out. My mom was trying to get me to get past it and they stayed together. My dad found out in august and called CPS. Again they did nothing. They ruled it as inappropriate conversation with a minor because my mom told them it wasn't everything I had told them he did. He was assigned AA meetings of which he didn't attend majority and they let him go. Last September I went to live with my mom and her boyfriend 6 hours away. Only then I found out how crazy my mom was. We were only living with him 6 weeks before he kicked us out. While we were there her and I would fight constantly and she got physical. She was crazy tho. Like she was punching and kicking holes in the door. There was one time I just walked out and she came out after me not to stop me but to smoke a cigarette and let me continue to walk around a town I had only lived in for 4 weeks and hardly knew. I came back to live with my dad and I was doing everything he wanted but he still emotionally abused me and told me all the time to go back to my mother. As the school year ended he got physical with me again for the first time in years and I moved in with my mom and her new boyfriend. The thing about my mother is she will never put her kids in front of her boyfriend. And I couldn't live with her. So I moved back with y dad. 5 days in he was already telling me to get the hell out. He was drunk so I told him why don't we just wait till I'm 17 and sign the papers to get me emancipated and he said sure I will sign away your life for all I care. He of course has no recollection of saying that. So now that I don't have his consent and it won't be as easy here's my case. The whole time I have been dealing with my parents instability I've been messing up on my own. A week before I turned 15 I had sex for the first time and got pregnant. I was a freshman in high school. 10 weeks later I miscarried. I had been going down such a bad path and the miscarriage shocked me into reality and made me realize I would no longer let my parents messes become my own. I would not let addiction take hold of me and I would not depend on guys for the rest of my life. So I stopped doing what I was doing and focused on my future and prepared for my future. I got a job as soon as I turned 16. I currently make $10.75 an hour. I can make over $1000 a month. I know living on my own means money would be right an I understand that. I understand rent, utilities, groceries, gas, all of it adds up. I've found an affordable place near my high school and community college so I could continue schooling. I want to stop living under the influence of my parents. I feel both of them have an unhealthy effect on me. Neither of them have any stability. My dad is financially stable but not emotionally as you can tell with the bad drinking. My mom in unstable in many ways and I could pull at least three witnesses on that. I want to get out on my own and start my own life. I already pay for majority of my needs. I buy my own clothes, usually the only meal I eat is the free one I get at work and then granola bars to get me through the day. So it's not like my father spends money on food or clothes for me. Right now it's just giving me a roof over my head. Which if I can financially do that for myself why shouldn't i. And not only will I emotionally be okay without them I will be better. I have done all the research on my finances and my expenses. I want to get away from my parents as soon as possible and live my own life. I am starting driving school, I'm paying all on my own, buying a car all on my own and will have both things by the time I turn 17. So there's my case, please let me know what you think my chances are it could be really helpful and sorry this is so long if your still reading this then thank you so much and please leave some feedback, thanks!

[CourtClerk]

My reasoning is well what every teenager says: my parents are impossible to get along with.

That is never a reason for emancipation

I cut myself and have had 2 suicide attempts.

That will disqualify you right there.

A week before I turned 15 I had sex for the first time and got pregnant.

Yet another reason you're telling the court you need MORE supervision, not less. That's a disqualifying event

I currently make $10.75 an hour. I can make over $1000 a month.

Another dis-qualifier. Living people the poverty level is not a way to make a court see that you would be self sustaining.

please let me know what you think my chances are

Your chances based on what you wrote? Zero

Not to mention, you failed to follow the FIRST instruction of posting on this site. It asked you what the name of your state was, you decided to delete it and go on with your story. That shows an inability to follow simple instruction

[Mr. Knowitall]

For some reason you chose not to read the stickied threads, then chose not to follow the instruction to identify your state. I suggest that you belatedly take those steps.