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readytoleave
Thank you again for the responses...
When we first started working on dissolving our marriage, I offered to take 50/50 of the marital debt. And he refused. He wanted me to take all of it since he is keeping the mortgage, and thinks that I should be taking all of the debt for the renovations to the house, even though I have no claim to the house, regardless of the fact that I have been paying for half of the mortgage since he bought it. He bought the house three years prior to us getting married, and my name was never on anything for either the house or the renovations, but we furnished it together. I brought most of the furniture and "things" into the house from my previous apartment, and he purchased all of the appliances and house renovations on his credit. We paid for these things that are on his credit out of a joint checking account since the day we moved in together three years before we were married until the day I left in Jan. We were only married 11 months when I left. He is keeping everything in the house, including all of the furniture, marital gifts, appliances etc. When I left I left only with clothes for my daughter and I
In order to keep it amicable, I was letting him have all of it, without making any claim to any of the things I have helped pay for, or brought into the house. I offered to take 50% of the debt that had accumulated since we got married, which was the debt mentioned in the first post. I am also still paying on the television and stuff, and I have offered to let him keep it. He refused. He also refused to help pay for our daughter's daycare, any doctor's bills, prescriptions, etc. He told me he let the mother of his other daughter know that she wasn't going to be able to use my HSA card any longer for his daughter's prescriptions, and that has turned out to be the first of many lies. It wasn't until I saw a charge for over a thousand dollars for two prescriptions that I realized he hadn't done what he said and got a hold of her myself. She said he never said anything to him, and she paid me back half of what she had spent. In a nutshell, he wants me to take about 15,000 in debt (the marital debt, plus his balance on the card prior to us getting married, that I had been paying half of all along) that I am not seeing anything for.
So if I take this in front of a judge, and explain that he has kept everything except our clothes, and hasn't contributed one penny to help with our daughter since I left seven months ago, the likely outcome is that the judge will likely just tell me that I have to pay for half of the 8000 dollars or so? Because I will do that happily since that is what I wanted to do in the very begining.