My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Maine ....Yep its me again. I have a question My daughter in law has admitted to being a IV drug user and can not care for my 7 year old granddaughter.... Her dad my son lives with myself and my husband. he is Bi-polar both parents now want us to have custody of grandchild 7 year old girl..Divorce papers are being filed this week. We are not rich by any means and just can not afford a lawyer..We own our own home and can provide for grand daughter..If both parents wish this for us to have custody how does one go about this. and does the judge say ok if this is what both parents wish then grand parents can have custody? I really need some help for this little girl.we are both fit grandparents .I have her best interest at heart. If and when mom gets into rehab and gets clean she wonders will the judge let her have back custody? Judge will not be told mom is hooked on IV oxycontin.. and other opiates.....Dad my son suffers from anxiety besides bipolar and just doesn't feel he is able to go before a judge and get custodial custody... I have no problem with mom getting her life back in order and getting custody back..but she says shes not ready to yet.. At this point there is no court order regarding my granddaughter..She has been living with us for the past 2 months...Mom takes her maybe one day a week but often calls me to come get her as she is drug sick as she has no money for her fix and is having with drawel symptoms.......
Does the judge need to know why the parents wish us to have custody or can they just sign papers giving us custody???Mom will be loosing her apartment at the end of the month and has no idea were she will even be living... I'm glad she finally told me the truth I have found help for her rehab that would take her in for a 2 month stay but she says not yet shes not ready..so my hands are tied if shes not ready to get clean then nothing I can do......We don't want to have a big court battle and airing all this dirty laundry..just wish to get it done and have granddaughter settled in a stable home...my son loves her very much but he feels its best that we have custody as does daughter in law.....please andy help would be so appreciated......Thank you

