My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Kentucky
My ex and I have joint custody of the kids, and a mediation agreement in place that details holidays, summer vacation, etc. Last weekend I needed him to agree to giving me one of his days so I could take the kids to visit my family who lives out of state. We agreed that he'd get an extra day of mine the following week.
I texted him this morning to ask if we were meeting at the halfway point today or tomorrow, wondering when he planned to take his extra day, and he said he was going to keep the kids the whole weekend, saying that I agreed to that last week. I didn't agree to giving him two days in exchange for one. Text messages reflect that. But whatever, I'm not calling my lawyer and spending additional money over an extra day. I was going to just let him have this one.
The problem arose when I found out through our oldest child that he'd made plans for her to be gone for an entire week next week, he did not check with me first. We have joint custody, so him sending her away for that period of time cuts into half of my time with her. He has to get any modifications to the custody agreement approved by me in writing. He didn't even bother to tell me, and is just planning on sending her off anyway. Of course I want her to be able to go, but he continually ignores the custody agreement. We have joint custody and he continues to act like he has sole physical and legal custody. He doesn't. (side note: he took her for a specific voluntary medical procedure last week that I didn't want her to have and didn't bother to tell me until it was done. I have legal right to have a say in that).
He proceeded to text me with "I have soul custody. if you text me again I'm calling the cops for harassment. I dare you" I wasn't threatening; I wasn't name-calling or being insulting. I was trying to DISCUSS with him what we'd previously agreed upon.
So naturally I replied. Because I'm TRYING to work out the details of parenting time with our kids! My reply said "I'm not harassing you. I'm trying to discuss parenting time with the kids. This is my last text to you: I do not give permission for you to send xxxx away for the week unless we work out equal parenting time the following week. Per our mediation agreement, I will see you at 6pm on 7/17 at the halfway point."
He replied with:
"Ok, Im filing harassment charges. I just explained that because of my work schedule that I am done talking about it. Om trying to sleep. You won't atop texting me. That is harassment"
So, is it really harassment? I sent ONE single text after he told me to stop. The one pasted above. And still, there is no resolution to next week. We kind of NEED that. I'm at a loss here.

