My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Ohio
My husband and I have been pursuing a dissolutionment for the last six months or so. Originally, I purposed the idea shared parenting, with a couple of stipulations, since for the most part we get along with regards to our daughter. I wanted to make sure that we had the Right of First Refusal in there as my husband is an over the road truck driver. I felt that if he was going to be out of town durning his time, then our daughter should come back to me. The same would be applied to me in the event I was ever to be out of town without our daughter. He agreed. Other than that, I purposed that we would make decisions together for both legal and medical. He didn't respond to the part about Right of First Refusal or to the part about making decisions jointly.
Moving forward in the negotiations, I proposed that that the weekday parenting time which include every Wednesday at 4pm to Thursday at 9am, and every other weekend from Friday at 4pm until Monday at 9am, be extended to 5pm on Thursday and Monday. The idea behind this is the way it was before, if our daughter was sick and needed to miss school, I would always have to be the one to take off work. When we spoke of this as part of the plan, he agreed, however, when we got the proposal back from his lawyer, he actually disagreed, and kept his end time at 9am.
In addition to this, he has also agreed that I would be the primary residential parent. I then purposed that while we would work together to make decisions in the best interest of our daughter, that if in the end we came to a stalemate, that I would have final say regarding school and medical. He agreed. He seems to be perfectly happy with just the minimum visitation that is required by our county, and not asking for anything more. Infact, he keeps giving things to do with responsibility away, and is only arguing about the division of assets and debt. His letters routinely say, "My client is in agreement with regards to the proposed parenting plan for "Daughter's name."
My question is this. When I am looking at the definitions of sole custody, vs joint custody, vs shared parenting, I get very confused. It sounds to me like this situation above isn't really shared parenting at all, and I don't intend to force him to be more involved then he wants to be. If he wants to keep turning down the actual responsibilities of being a parent, then that is his issue, and I will just pick up the slack. But I would be more comfortable if the wording in the paperwork reflected the actual senario that is being proposed. I feel so dumb asking this, but in layman's terms, what is the difference between those three terms (Sole custody, joint custody, shared parenting)? And what would be my basic rights as her parent under each of them?
As always, thank you for your time.