We got married in Iowa. We live in Missouri. Being a same-sex marriage, and being that same sex marriages are not recognized here, I cannot change my name with the dmv or social security until it is legal, and who knows when that will be. I want to carry my partner's last name, and that is why I am petitioning the court to have a legal name change. I did change my name in the other state, but that is not valid here until it is legal. And yes, I filed a normal name change petition.