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Dogmatique
Ordinarily, you and Mom would stand equal before the court and Mom would have a hard time convincing a court that taking Junior to live out of state would be in his best interests. A 50/50 timeshare just isn't going to happen, so we can take that one off the board completely.
On paper, your military and deployability status cannot be held against you. And that's great - on paper. The practical reality is that when one parent is deployable and the other isn't, the courts have a tendency to favor the non-military parent simply because having to flip back and forth during a deployment doesn't make for the most stable of environments.
It's not a wash for either of you at the moment and naturally if you could both work together for the sake of your son it would be much better for all involved. As that doesn't seem to be possible right now, all you can do from this point is speak with a local attorney to discuss your options.