Why would I be punished because she doesn't want to live in Florida? And as for her being the primary caregiver, it's debatable. She is currently out of work but looking for a job, she goes to school 3 days a week and our child goes to daycare 3-5 days, while she's at school I take full care of him. I work alot because of the military but in all honesty the care giving is split almost equally.