I didn't read all of that but from your statement I take it that boils down to:
no contact means no contact and somebody didn't seem to understand that.
decent summary?
had an attorney tell me a story of a guy she had represented. He was under a NCO but being the nice guy he actually was and since he was the only income producing soul in the house, he purchased a bunch of groceries for his wife and child who remained in the family house. He placed them at the end of the drive for the wife to find.
the court didn't really have a problem with the groceries but dummy also bought some flowers and a card for the wife. Don't recall what was written in it but it was happy birthday or love you or some innocuous statement a loving husband would say to his wife he loved dearly.
BANG!!!! violation of the order and off to jail he goes.
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there are no conflicting orders. One court can make rules and the other court can make rules. if one court said you could have peaceful contact, that court could not charge you with a violation for peaceful contact but that does not mean the other court with a no contact order cannot charge you with a violation of their order of you violate their order/

