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kcrawfordx2
My question involves a child custody case from the State of: New Hampshire
I left my husband late last August and moved to my Mother in MA. We have 2 children. I had consent to leave. We have been here since. We had drafted, signed and notorized a separation agreement that he said he filed with the court, and took money from the child support to do so. Then I found out that he lied and never filed it. We are now in the process of divorcing. We currently have no court ordered child support or visitation. He has been paying 1,100 per month in child support and I have given him the children every single holiday, extra weekends and offered them to him for every school vacation. When I left I had been a stay at home Mom for the previous 5 years and had no income or savings or property outside the marriage. I didn't take anything nor do I want anything. I came here, 3 hrs away from where we last lived together, because it was the onlyplace that I had family and support. Since living here I have begun to build my life to where it needs to be for me to support my children. I work part-time right now, full-time starting in September, so that I am home during the day for the children who only go to school for 3 hrs. So I work nights and my Mother puts them to bed. I have them enrolled in one of the best schools in the area and both have been granted full day and full week class starting in September. They have friends here, they are involved in extra-curricular activities like sports and dance lessons, they go to play dates and birthday parties, they have been baptized and begin CCD classes this fall at the local church, they have pediatricians and dentist and are up to date on all medical appointments. I still live at my Mother's with them because when I moved here I immediately had surgery and was forced to get a new vehicle because the one I had during the marriage was releasing carbon monoxide into the interior. Not having had any money of my own I had to borrow and rely on the support of my family and I now owe them over 15,000 which I have been paying off. I also have been enrolled in the local community collage to complete a paralegal certificate program to put myself in a better position to provide for my children...my ex and I met yesterday to try to come to an agreement out of court on all aspects of the divorce. the only issue we do not agree on is that he feels that the court should force me to relocate within 60 miles of him so that he can see them more...that would mean leaving everything I am trying to build for myself and my children. It's not that I want to keep them from him. I give them to him as much as I possibly can and have them call and Skype him all the time...but I have no family and no support in NH. I have no friends or job there. I have nothing there...during our marriage there were times where he would leave on business and I'd be left with no money to take care of the children or the electric would get shut off or he would go out drinking all night and not return until late the next day...here I have reliable support of family to help me care for our 4 and 5 year old...he recently moved in with his new girlfriend of 4 months and her child and doesn't want to have to drive and hour and a half to get his own children...I too am in a relationship of 9 months, with no thought of cohabitation as of yet, but am fully committed to this man. Being forced to leave here would also force me to lose that relationship...when I did not comply to request to move yesterday he told me this morning that he is lessening his child support payments. I suspect because it angered him that I did not do as he said. he said that my current income of 150 a week counts against what he is due to pay. Come September my income will increase to about 400 a week...MY QUESTION IS: Will a judge force me to leave everything I'm trying to build for my family in order to be able to provide the life they deserve as a single mother and move to him where I have nothing? (He says that they will.) AND is he correct that my making even such a small amount of income lowers his responsibility in terms of child support for our two children?
PLEASE HELP ME WITH A LITTLE GUIDANCE. I AMSINCERELY TERRIFIED OF THIS ENTIRE SITUATION.