Everyone tells me not to worry, that there isn't a judge on the planet that would give my son back to him, but I can't help but worry
what does your son have to do with the man's child?


unless of course you are considering his and the mother's child your son. You wouldn't really do that, would you? because he isn't your son.


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instead of doing an adoption at the moment, a friend suggested considering a possible name change until we can do an actual adoption.*
since you are only guardians, the courts would have no reason to change the child's name. If you ever get to adopt the boy, then you can change his name to whatever you want.


She sees the baby when it is convenient and on some holidays.
does she realize you want to remove her as "mom" and take her place? Does she realize she will have absolutely no legal rights to see the child?


I gave birth to my daughter in September 2013, and I'm concerned about what happens if either of them regain custody.
why would you be worried about either of them is the mother is so willing to relinquish the child to you to adopt?