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    Default Pregnancy After Children Were Taken by Protective Services - Will They Take the Baby

    My question involves child abuse or neglect in the State of: Tennessee

    I have 3 children that my mother has custody of since about a year and a half ago. I was found doing cough medicine and they took my children away and put them into my mother's care. I still have supervised visitation and I am currently taking mental health for anxiety and depression and drug classes to fix this problem and to get my children back.

    I know this is a bad situation but I am trying. People make mistakes and no one is a bad person. People just make bad decisions. You are only a bad person when you don't feel bad or make an effort to make things right again. So if you are coming on here to judge me then don't bother. I am going to keep doing what I am doing and striving to get my children back no matter what anyone says or how many people put me down.

    Now back to the story... This is the problem I am facing...
    I am currently 5 months pregnant. And the state, DCS, juvenile court, social services, my mother, NO ONE KNOWS except my husband.
    I am keeping it like that because I am terrified that if the state does find out then they will jerk my son or daughter from me while I am in the hospital as soon as I give birth.
    I am clean and have been clean for over 6 months. I have done regular drug screenings and of course prenatal doctors test you for foreign substances.
    My case is closed as of right now with my other 3 children my mother has custody of. I have heard if the case is closed then they should let me keep the new child because I have not currently did anything wrong when this child was in my custody.
    I am not sure what to do but I am terrified for them to find out. I don't want my baby snatched away at birth for past mistakes that I am currently fixing and been clean for 6 months.
    What will happen? Has anyone ever experienced this?

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    Default Re: I Am Pregnant and Do Not Have Custody of My Other Kids. Can They Take My Baby Awa

    Honestly? 6 months is not a long time in terms of sobriety.

    What's more troublesome is that you're trying to rationalize. Yes, people make mistakes. Yes, people make bad decisions. But you're actually saying it doesn't matter what you do because it's okay as long as you feel bad. That's not how it works. At. All.

    I believe that once social services find out, and decides that you've deceived them they might actually do more than remove the new baby....you keep going like this and you're going to lose all of the children permanently.

    You need an attorney, and counseling. Not necessarily in that order.

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    Default Re: I Am Pregnant and Do Not Have Custody of My Other Kids. Can They Take My Baby Awa

    Where do you plan on having the baby that you think they won't eventually find out? If you check into a hospital, they'll know INSTANTLY.

    You say the case is closed, is there a case plan? Do you never intend on regaining custody of the other children? If the case is closed, I guess that means no, right?

    If there IS a case plan, what has the court said you need to do in order to regain custody of your children?

    Why doesn't the father of the other children have custody of those children? Is that man the father of this baby?

    And so you know, you do NOT get to dictate how people respond to you on this forum. You'll take the good with the bad, or you go pay someone for advice. It is HORRIBLY irresponsible for you to make more babies when you can't take care of the 3 you already have on this earth. What kind of job do you have that will allow you to afford 4 children? There are bad people in this world. That you don't want to admit it because that will require you to take a good hard look at yourself is no one else's problem but yours. Denial will get you nowhere.

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    Default Re: I Am Pregnant and Do Not Have Custody of My Other Kids. Can They Take My Baby Awa

    They told me to take the mental health classes and the drug classes. I am not making excuses for the things that I have done. I am simply stating that being put down about things that happened in my past isn't gong to get anywhere. Yes the father is my husband. They want him to do survival classes before he regains custody due to the fact of his father molesting him as a child. The case is closed until we get the classes done and reopen it to eventually get custody.

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    Default Re: I Am Pregnant and Do Not Have Custody of My Other Kids. Can They Take My Baby Awa

    Quote Quoting Xucksashmeow
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    The case is closed until we get the classes done and reopen it to eventually get custody.
    That's not the way it works, however, I asked you a series of questions, not just one.

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    Default Re: I Am Pregnant and Do Not Have Custody of My Other Kids. Can They Take My Baby Awa

    Pretty sure I answered everything you just asked me

    "They told me to take the mental health classes and the drug classes. I am not making excuses for the things that I have done. I am simply stating that being put down about things that happened in my past isn't gong to get anywhere. Yes the father is my husband. They want him to do survival classes before he regains custody due to the fact of his father molesting him as a child. The case is closed until we get the classes done and reopen it to eventually get custody. "

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    Default Re: I Am Pregnant and Do Not Have Custody of My Other Kids. Can They Take My Baby Awa

    What kind of a job do you have that will allow you to support 4 children? How do you intend on supporting 6 of you?

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    Default Re: I Am Pregnant and Do Not Have Custody of My Other Kids. Can They Take My Baby Awa

    I know of a person [couple] they took the baby straight from the hospital. Ironically enough 10 years later they just granted them full custody of 2 children that were grandchildren of the father.

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