My mom is my payee. I started getting ssi/ssdi in 2010. I am 30 now. I have moved from MI where she lives to Texas. When I won my case I got about $11,000 in back pay from ssa. She took the money and put it in a safety deposit box that I have no idea where it is. I could really use the money to pay off my car and bills and get my own place as I am living with my fiance and his grandparents. I don't want her as my payee anymore. I don't want her in my life anymore. I got a job and she was not happy about it and she has to report my earnings and everything. I wasn't even able to change my address. She has done nothing but be mean to me yell at me about my life choices. It's highly annoying that every time I do something with my bank account she calls me and asks me about it. I don't even think I can open a bank account down here with out her on it. I looked online to find the form to get her off as my payee and I can't find it. I asked earlier about my fiance being my payee but was told no. I don't know if I can be my own payee because I have a mental illness and I doubt my old doctor will approve it. I don't know what to do. Should I just flat out ask her for it? What if she says no? Is there anything I can do?