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My question involves juvenile law in the State of: Kansas
My nephew is 15, he will be 16 in October. My niece (the mother) is a very hard person to please. She demands respect at all times regardless of how she is acting. If you disagree with her on any subject you are defying her authority and disrespecting her which then leads to grounding or some form of punishment. She communicates by yelling and screaming.
She has always had him in her custody but has not done all the raising of him. For the majority of his 15 years my sister (grandmother) has made sure his basic needs have been met, has clean clothes, lunches paid, homework done etc. She will no longer allow him to see his grandmother as punishment.
Now that he is 15 and has started to talk back, not disrespecting or name calling, just why do you act like this mom, why are you screaming, why are you calling me names, leave me alone - that type of thing. When he does this she will scream, ball and call him names such as - f'en spoiled rotten brat, such an a**hole or tell him you have no voice or opinion in my home so screw you. She has slapped him before and back handed with her fist in the chest because he was wanting to go to a church function that interrupted her schedule. But nothing was done about it at the time. .
We believe she has some type of mental or personality disorder. When one of us do get to talk to him - which is not often over the last few weeks - she is isolating all of us for disrespecting her, he is begging us to come get him that he can't deal with her anymore.
I know there are a lot worse cases out there than this. But this is a good boy who gets good grades who is now depressed and feels like we dont care about him enough to do something. If she were to find out that he has contacted us and wanted us to help him there would be no access to a phone or internet. We don't want to make his problems worse but don't want to ignore his plea. This isn't just an argument that will pass. He can ask at 9 pm if she was planning on making anything for supper and be told "Wait an f'en minute can you not see I'm doing something. Gawd, it's always something with you."
She will never grant him emancipation and lose control, child support and the humiliation of what people would think. Any one of us would take him into our homes in a heartbeat we just feel it has to get a whole lot worse before we can offer help. Any suggestions??
Honestly? This sounds like a fairly typical teenage male who's just doing what teenage males have done for millenia - that is, to push buttons.

Hopefully he's been able to washing his own clothes and fix his food for at least a few years by this point. He shouldn'd need Mom for either of those things.

And yes, he is being disrespectful of Mom's household. He needs to quit that. In all honesty, y'all need to keep out of it. If he's being abused - and you've said nothing to suggest that - you call the right numbers. Other than that? This is Mom's business.

Kids have lived with strict parents and no internet for years and I'm going to call a spade a spade here. He's playing you. He's also trying to play Mom, but having little success.