Okay
Believe it or not, she did something sensible there - a court order protects all of you.
She stopped contacting me after I was asked to leave and then filed a paternity order 10 days after the birth of our child even though I had sent money, bought accessories for the nursery and purchased necessities - diapers, groceries etc.
It would be nice for Mom to pay half - but she moved before the child was born which historically makes her less liable for costs.
I then hired an attorney to pursue my custody rights but the mother's side won't agree to more than 1 week, every two months, split summer (defined by july and august), rotating holidays. They also will not agree to split travel expenses meaning I am solely responsible for going and getting our child and returning her to Florida all on my dime.
They have a point - as a rule, leaving a high-paying job would be classed as voluntarily underemployed.
Additionally, I left a high paying job in New York 5 months before I met the mother of my child and her attorneys are trying to impute income based on my previous salary because they have the past three years of tax returns. I have my own business now that launched 6 months ago but it is not generating nearly as much money as I made in my previous position. They are arguing I am underemployed.
Yup, that happens.They are asking for all attorney's fees and birthing costs as well. We have also found out in our diligence that the mother's family was vetting attorneys in FL while the mother was still promising to stay in NC. It was all planned.
How old is the child?
Please help! Any advice is welcome.

