My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Tennessee.
I have a 2 year old son whom i only got to see for the first 3 months of his life, after this time i was literally forced to move out of our home (The mother and i with child lived in the same house). I tried to work with her to see my son afterward but she was so bitter that she told me she didnt want me around and " would do it all by herself".
Fast forward to age 12 months. Over the past 9 months i begged, pleaded, yelled, whatever i could think of but it did no good whatsoever so i took it to court by filing an order for visitation with my county juvenile court. The court date finally came, she had an attorney and i didnt, the court tried supervised with an eventual graduation to in her home weekly visitations which went well for 4 weeks and then we graduated to in home although Her attorney tactically saw to it that i would not be able to make the time frames by arguing the hours of visitation to interfere with my work schedule but it didnt really make a difference because even when i started taking off work early she would come with an excuse as to why i could not come (the ball was in her court, she owned me at this point).
Long story short, we went back to court to do our "check in" , she didnt show although her attorney did, i informed the judge of her actions and the judge said it would be reset for another date (They would inform me by mail or phone) and told me that if she didnt comply i could end up with custody. I never heard a word although as ive been told the last order in place is what we should go by.
I have checked in with the court, with her attorney (no help ofcourse lol) and i have an inside man in a way because she also has another son with a man and we have become aquainted. I found out that she had moved 2 hours away from our hometown ,without my son or her other son. One child lived with her grandparents, my child lived with her father and stepmother for a period of greater than 8 months.
Well, the crap hit the fan because the father of her other son was already in a custody battle with her over the last year and in her deposition she admitted to living 2 hours away and not having her children and for that matter got caught in so many lies that her attorney relieved himself of duty and the father of her other son got full custody and she is ordered to pay child support.
Next, we have the father and stepmother of this woman raising my son, and now these two are getting a divorce (already living seperate as of 3 weeks ago, her father now raises my son alone) so she comes back into town and wants to take my son to which her father replies with an absolutely not. Now THESE TWO are hiring attorneys (remember her original quit her) and have filed paperwork back and forth at each other over the past 2 weeks obviously the father is claiming she is a dead beat mom and she is ..well, im not sure what she claims besides thats my son and i need the child support.
I want custody of my son, i always have i just didnt get a fair shake from the get go because everyone believed she was so perfect and the judge in the original juvenile court case was friendly (were talking bar buddies freindly) with her original attorney. I know there is a good chance of this, and i am basically a model citizen comparitively speaking to her. My income and home are sufficient, i have no felony record, i have always paid child support. What steps do i take to get this thing knocked out? I know im at a disadvantage because i have not been allowed to see him and that looks rather bad but i think it can be overcame. Please help!

