My question involves a marriage in the state of: Vermont
We live in Vermont. I found out my wife was having an affair with our neighbor a little over a month ago. She "supposedly" called it off, I immediately, for her and our 3 very young children's safety, put them on a plane for Texas to stay with her sister. They've been there since. We've been back and forth trying to make it work, even deciding at one point to give the marriage a shot, and relocate all of our stuff to Texas and live there. This would enable me to go back to school, and we have tons of family there and a great support system. My wife is now not sure of the plan, maybe still wants a divorce, but she definitely wants to move back to Vermont. (I found out recently that they are still in contact VERY often. We rent a house, and with high cost of living, I can't find another place. Again, the "other" party lives across the street. Plus, I really want to move to Texas, because there will be more opportunity.
I am in Vermont tying up loose ends with my job, and packing, as we had agreed to relocate before she began to waffle about the whole idea. I am thinking of just packing up everything, and just doing the move. Getting out of here. There is no way I would want her to have the house, with the kids, not with that guy across the street.
Would I be hurting myself if I just made the move happen? Basically, up and left and took everything down to Texas where they already are. My wife is a stay at home mom, home schools, does all the Dr. appts, destist appts . . she would be considered the primary care giver, so I know she has that advantage. What are my options?
Thanks!

