My question involves restraining orders in the State of: Washington
In 1995 my ex-wife, who did not live with me, had me served with a Restraining Order for my permanent residence and office. When I explained to the serving officer what was really going on, and that she did not live there, he said to leave for an hour and he would take care of it. I also told the attorney that handled my divorce about this and he said he would make sure it was removed. I never was in court on this matter. Unfortunately I assumed it was taken care of and never did follow up to make sure it was done. I learned a couple of years ago that it was still in effect and it was causing me problems at US Border crossings. I contacted my ex-wife to see if she would sign the papers to remove the order. At first she said she would sign the papers and then she decided that I would have to "loan" her $3,000.00 before she would sign. I have discussed this matter with several attorneys and they wanted a $5,000.00 retainer.
This seems excessive for a somewhat easy matter.
My ex-wife lives in Ohio. I live in WA and CA.
Is there an easy way to handle this matter?

